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Need help here from those with experience..

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I am a teacher.  Let's say a student came to me and said that they wanted to put their child up for adoption.  They then tell me that they would want it to be an open adoption.  The young lady has a really rough situation at home, no insurance, and is 18 going on 19.  She is about 9 weeks along, and has only had the first doctor visit to be certain that she is pregnant.  I told her that I know plenty of people interested in adopting and trying to adopt..... she says, "but would they want a black baby?"  I tell her that I have friends who have adopted all over the cultural spectrum, but I can tell she isn't sold that anyone other than a black family would want a black baby in an open adoption.

What is her next step?  What should I advise her to do?

"There is more to us than we know. Perhaps, if we are made to see it just once, for the rest of our lives we will be unwilling to settle for less." - Kurt Hahn, Founder of Outward Bound

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Re: Need help here from those with experience..

  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    I would advise to either see a counselor who can discuss all her options, or to talk to a reputable adoption agency who will also counsel her on all her options.

    GL to her

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  • Cissi64Cissi64
    Ditto what Dr. L said, and reassure her that plenty of people would adopt a black baby.  There are families of all races that are open to babies of all races.  A reputable agency will help her find one.
    dd(Brianna) 11/01/94, ds(Bram)10/17/95, ds(Jesse)9/26/97, dd (Annie Ruth) 7/27/05 5mc Jan '08, May '08, Feb '09, Sept '09, Apr '11 "And can it be that in a world so full and busy, the loss of one weak creature makes a void in any heart, so wide and deep that nothing but the width and depth of vast eternity can fill it up." - Charles Dickens

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  • Dragonfly_BrideDragonfly_Bride member

    Dr.L is right on. Counseling is the first step. 

    If she needs reassurance, you could point her toward an agency website which will filter their prospective adoptive parents by race/ethnicity acceptance. I'm thinking of my agency's website in particular that has a bunch of filters for expectant parents to use to narrow down their search. (I just checked, and 138 results came up for prospective adoptive parents who would match in an open adoption with an AA couple). 

     

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