Need Some Input on Something

SRK128 · February 2012

So as most of you know my 7 week premature daughter was diagnosed at one week old with Juvenile Diabetes. Recently I have thought a lot about next year and returning to work as I am a early elementary teacher. I took the rest of the year off to be with my girls. I had planned to have Levi in Kindergarten and Carly in pre-school and Brooke,and Ellie in day care. I know that Ellie is still not regulated in her blood glucose levels and that this will take a while. The thing is I don't know if I can trust someone with my daughter's life in this stage. That being said what would you do. I love teaching but in this case Ellie's health is 1st priority. So Do I return to work and find a diabetic trained day care worker. Find a full time nanny/au pair/babysitter or stay home until I am more comfortable with trusting someone. I just don't know if we can afford living off one income.

Thanks

megaloo27 · February 2012

I think I would find a nanny willing to do first aid and diabetes training. One on one care would be best to make sure her sugars are on track.

SRK128 · February 2012

I like that idea. We would for sure pay for them to do the training and everything. Then would you just send Brooke to DC? Maybe 3 days a week send her?

Jess084 · February 2012

SRK128:
I like that idea. We would for sure pay for them to do the training and everything. Then would you just send Brooke to DC? Maybe 3 days a week send her?

I think 3 days a weeks is a good idea. I know it must be so scary to have to trust someone with your daughter who has special needs but I think that a dedicated nanny will be better able to care for her than a day care.

SRK128 · February 2012

I think having someone home with Ellie everyday and then only 2 days a week with Brooke sounds good. I agree that a dedicated nanny will take care of her better than a day care with may other children. It is scary to have to trust someone with this.

chemmie03 · February 2012

I think if you are going to hire a nanny then I would not do daycare. But I would look at the cost. I think keeping your kids together would be the best. And maybe the nanny can find activities for the kids to go to. Just a thought.

SRK128 · February 2012

I agree with the keeping them together would be best.But Ellie needs one on one attention a lot. That is why I thought 2 days a week Brooke would be home so they could be together a little bit.This is so hard and stressful. I also need to look into costs.

jnk062602 · February 2012

chemmie03:
I think if you are going to hire a nanny then I would not do daycare. But I would look at the cost. I think keeping your kids together would be the best. And maybe the nanny can find activities for the kids to go to. Just a thought.

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Plus, your babies are getting socialization also from the older siblings and each other. I wouldn't even worry about that until at least 18-24 months.

jnk062602 · February 2012

SRK128:
I agree with the keeping them together would be best.But Ellie needs one on one attention a lot. That is why I thought 2 days a week Brooke would be home so they could be together a little bit.This is so hard and stressful. I also need to look into costs.

A lot might change by September. Maybe find a daycare as back up that you could send Brooke to, but hopefully Ellie will be more stable by then and you won't have to pay a nanny and daycare.

SRK128 · February 2012

jnk062602:
SRK128:
I agree with the keeping them together would be best.But Ellie needs one on one attention a lot. That is why I thought 2 days a week Brooke would be home so they could be together a little bit.This is so hard and stressful. I also need to look into costs.

A lot might change by September. Maybe find a daycare as back up that you could send Brooke to, but hopefully Ellie will be more stable by then and you won't have to pay a nanny and daycare.

I hope things change by September. We have a day care that we send our 2 y/o to that we will send them to if need be. If we decided to do DC then the day care will have to test her multiple times a day and give her insulin based on her BGL. I hope we can do one or the other.

faeriequeeneonwow · February 2012

Honestly, my initial gut reaction is that your girls don't need to be in any kind of daycare environment because of their prematurity. The NICU told us to keep DD out of daycare until after she was 2 if at all possible; daycare is an environment where weaker immune systems are at higher risk.

I agree with PPs who have suggested a nanny if you are able to find someone you are comfortable with, but if you can't find someone who would agree to training for your daughter's health management - stay home. There are many ways to re-work a budget to live on one income.

SRK128 · February 2012

You make a valid point and I agree with you. So either I will stay home or we will find a nanny. My only concern is if we find someone will she be able to take care of both of them with all that Ellie requires.

julievernarsky · February 2012

While your concern that a nanny might not be able to take care of both of your girls, you would need to consider that for yourself as well.

SRK128 · February 2012

That is true. I have yet to have both girls home with me so I really don't know what it will be like.

michelle_1221 · February 2012

I'd suggest also reaching out to a Diabetes support group to chat with other mom's that dealt with this. I'm not sure what city you're in, but you should probably reach out to the pediatric hospital or endocrinologist to find a support group, or perhaps you'd find something online. I can only imagine it seems very overwhelming right now, but it maybe it's more manageable than you think.

T&P for you as you face all these challenges.

SRK128 · February 2012

Thanks Michelle, I am currently trying to find one . I met a woman with 3 kids 2 of which were Juvenile Diabetics but they are in school one is 13 the other 8 and take care of themselves in that sense. I am meeting again with the endo tomorrow and will talk to him about this and see what he suggests.

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