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Time to start the "things you shouldn't say to a woman who just had a baby" list!

kristin172429kristin172429 member
in February 2012 Moms

We had tons of posts on the ridiculous things people say to a pregnant woman.  I find that now I can start to add some items to the "things you shouldn't say to a woman who just had a baby".  

Let's start with my mother (who is very lucky I am not overly sensitive!):

She has been bringing us over dinner and a dessert almost every night since we got home, which has been really sweet.  Then on Valentine's Day, she wanted me to know that they were going out and wouldn't bring dinner over, but she could still bring dessert.  I told her we were still working on the other desserts she has been bringing over.  And she says...

"Oh, okay.  I guess I shouldn't over-indulge you.  I know you are going to want to get to work on losing that baby weight soon."

Surprise

Wow.  I happily explained to her that I really hadn't gained any weight due to the GD and probably weighed less now than before I got pregnant.  So that hushed her pretty quickly with an "oh." 

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Re: Time to start the "things you shouldn't say to a woman who just had a baby" list!

  • MrsLindinger0905MrsLindinger0905 member
    Haha silly mom! A woman at work just got back from maternity leave and she's had at least 3 other co workers saying things like "oh don't worry you're young you'll lose the baby weight pretty quick." she was maybe a 12/14 pre preg, and she's now down to a size 10 (lucky brat, right?) she's just like wtf?!?!
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  • liberty95liberty95 member

    MIL came over yesterday and said "wow! You look tired!"

    Really, thanks. My baby is 9 days old and I am recovering from surgery so I need you to point out how terrible I look right now. Ughhhhhh. 

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  • December192009December192009
    OOOOoooooo after I had DS#1, the social security lady came in and asked me his name - I named him after my husband. Then she went on a 10 min rant in front of my grandmother, sister, and aunt/godmother about how she just loved that name because he daughter had a crush on a boy by that name back in high school and she was still hoping something would happen between them one day. I asked her where her daughter went to high school... DH's high school.... DH's graduation year.... Of course, this was a girl smitten with DH who never actually dated him. But yeah, I seriously almost picked something up and threw it at her. idiot!
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  • k3montelk3montel member

    MIL said..."I didn't know people couldn't wear their regular clothes home from the hospital...I was smaller leaving the hospital than I was pre-pregnancy".  Yea...and before that, at the end of my pregnancy...that I only gained 20 lbs during, she said..."Well, I only gained 15 lbs during pregnancy" ...really!?!? WTF?!? 

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  • minteamintea member

    My favorite example thus far has been from by BIL who visited us 1 week postpartum when we had this convo:

    BIL: How has your week off been?

    Me: Week off??

    BIL: Oh wait, you are off right? Or did you go to work this week?

    Me: Did I go in to work the week after I had the baby? No. Still, I wouldn't call it a "week off."

    DD #1: 2012; MMC: 2014; DD #2: 2015; It's a boy! 3/31/2018

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  • katea81katea81 member
    imagemintea:

    My favorite example thus far has been from by BIL who visited us 1 week postpartum when we had this convo:

    BIL: How has your week off been?

    Me: Week off??

    BIL: Oh wait, you are off right? Or did you go to work this week?

    Me: Did I go in to work the week after I had the baby? No. Still, I wouldn't call it a "week off."

     

    HAHAHA. This is priceless! Men!  

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  • 911carrie911carrie member
    We went to my in-laws for New Years Day and as we were making a plate of food, she looked at me and said, "so, are they going to put you on any kind of special diet for the last few months?" I said no and looked at her funny and she said "well, I only gained 14lbs with Keith, and you have gained a little more then that, so I just wanted to make sure you and the baby were healthy", I havent gained 100lbs lady! I cried all the way home :(
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