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Screaming and hitting help.......

Tiffandmart09Tiffandmart09
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I have  an almost 4 week old and a 22 month old. My 22 month old screams all the time and we can't get him to stop. We ignore him and don't acknowledge him but he continues to do it. What can we do to get him to stop? He wakes the baby up when he does it so the baby has a hard time sleeping sometimes. And the hitting is also a problem. He slaps us in the face or hits us as well. Any ideas on how to get him to stop that as well? 
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  • userdeleteduserdeleted member

    I'm really sorry. I've been there. I think everyone with a 2+ year old either has or will be there.

    So that was the good news. The bad news is that I, personally, have not found a solution to this problem yet. Other than sweet, sweet time. I'm really sorry. The screaming thing drove me to the edge of sanity. 

    We've always done time outs for hitting. I don't necessarily know that it "works" but at least I feel like I'm doing something. The only thing you can really do for the screaming other than ignoring them (which you're already doing) is put them in their room until they calm down. You have to decide whether you think he's old enough for that though. 

    Also I highly recommend a good sound machine for the baby. This one will cover up almost anything, even a screaming toddler.

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  • userdeleteduserdeleted member

    imageMrsRosie:
    We (mostly) use the 1-2-3 Magic techniques and they work well for us if there is a certain negative behavior we want to eliminate. We go against the method a tiny bit in that we do often talk about it a bit afterward from time to time.

    Rosie, what do you do if you get to three and they do it again/don't stop?

    I haven't read the book but I do the counting to three thing a lot. It actually works really well most of the time, which shocks me considering how wild my kids can be. 

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  • fjarilfjaril

    It sounds like he's having trouble adjusting to the baby to me. I'm sure we'll have issues in a few weeks too.

    In the past when he was craving attention (which is what I think he's doing or in our case H was). We made sure to stop and address it. 

    I'd have him take a breath and ask if he was upset or sad about something. I have the added fun of a kid who has a speech delay so asking that is even harder b/c he couldn't really answer at that point, but he could nod/ sya yes or shake his head and say no. 

    We made sure to tell him that screaming and hitting weren't the best ways to get attention, b/c mama and papa are sad and upset when he does that. 

    Are you making sure there is some one on one time with your older kiddo? Can you assign him a task to help with with the baby, like get a new diaper or throwing away the old one so he has a job? 

    We've found the screaming/hitting stopped once he saw we were sad about it and he had some helpful jobs. I think kids need to feel like they are part of the family and needed. A small job is great to help. For example, H currently sets the table with his dishes and clears his things away. He gets super excited to help and since he's been helping his attitude has been much better. 

    We started with just putting a cup on the table or something else small when he was about 2 and going through the same stuff. 

    Lots of luck. 

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