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Proud of DH

boydstmboydstm
in February 2012 Moms
DH and I had a lot of problems the entire time I have been pregnant with his drinking and partying. He has calmed down soooo much in the past 2 weeks and is always home being bored with me now. I am so glad not to be alone all the time. A couple of days ago he really shocked me and stood up to his mom. She bought a crib and set up the guest room for baby which would be fine if they didn't live 10 mins from us and if she wasn't doing it because she thinks this baby is going to be as much hers as she is ours. Well, we went to her house and the crib box was sitting on the porch as was the mattress, DH said "Why on earth did you get a crib? How much do you think you are going to have her? By the time we let her out of our sight long enough for her to spend the night, she won't need a crib anymore." I was so happy to hear him say that!!! I was a little worried that he would be uninvolved and/or agree to let his mom keep baby overnight every time she asks and I would have to be the bad guy. Whew, I am just so relieved.
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  • Jillibean85Jillibean85
    Not to veer away from your point, but i think that would be awesome to a.) Have family close enough to watch LO , and b.) to let them watch LO overnight on occasion so DH and i can have a night out or a weekend away, etc.! You guys don't plan on letting baby out of your sight for almost 2 years? 
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  • redheadedgirlredheadedgirl member

    imageJillibean85:
    Not to veer away from your point, but i think that would be awesome to a.) Have family close enough to watch LO , and b.) to let them watch LO overnight on occasion so DH and i can have a night out or a weekend away, etc.! You guys don't plan on letting baby out of your sight for almost 2 years? 

    Yes this! If your MIL is a competent person and your baby is safe take her up on her offer from time to time. We left LO with my parents for two nights for the first time  when she was 18 months but only because they are 6 hrs away. It was wonderful!

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  • jewernerjewerner
    I'm gonna back you up here, but maybe just because my own mother is being ridiculously overbearing-- if it were going to be an "on occasion" thing she could have gotten a PnP or something along those lines. To invest the money in a crib (unless they have money, a concept totally foreign to me right now lol) is almost implying a second home. Like LO would need their own nursery or something over there. While it'd be nice to have the family so near and able to babysit, and I'm sure the thought was good-- I'm happy DH put his foot down for you! I wish I had with my mom before LO arrived lol
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  • FormerlyKrista555FormerlyKrista555 member

    imagejewerner:
    I'm gonna back you up here, but maybe just because my own mother is being ridiculously overbearing-- if it were going to be an "on occasion" thing she could have gotten a PnP or something along those lines. To invest the money in a crib (unless they have money, a concept totally foreign to me right now lol) is almost implying a second home. Like LO would need their own nursery or something over there. While it'd be nice to have the family so near and able to babysit, and I'm sure the thought was good-- I'm happy DH put his foot down for you! I wish I had with my mom before LO arrived lol

    eh, yeah, but PnPs are pretty uncomfortable.

    We actually bought a used crib for my parents' house so that they can take our LO's.  It was $50 and it's super nice. 

    Also, keep in mind that if you're hanging out at the in-laws house for holidays, etc., and you're gonna be there all day,  it's SO NICE to have a crib, toys, high chair, etc. at their house.

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  • boydstmboydstm
    MIL is not a good option for us to leave LO with on any overnight occasion or for an extended period during the day. There are always 1000 drunk people at her house and I do not trust her or FIL to not let drunk, smoke covered people or SIL (who is young) and her friends tote my baby around. I won't be comfortable with her being there very much at all without me being there.
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  • KateLouiseKateLouise member

    imageboydstm:
    MIL is not a good option for us to leave LO with on any overnight occasion or for an extended period during the day. There are always 1000 drunk people at her house and I do not trust her or FIL to not let drunk, smoke covered people or SIL (who is young) and her friends tote my baby around. I won't be comfortable with her being there very much at all without me being there.

    Fair enough, I wouldn't let my LO stay with them either. Although I'm ridiculously protective of my babies and struggle leaving them with even the most trusted person.

    BUT, once your LO is mobile and can't be put down to nap on a bed, it's handy to have a cot you can put them to sleep in when you visit and not have to lug around a PNP. 

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