Ever feel this way? (kind of a rant)

MommaMel94 · February 2012

Im 35 weeks pregnant, and while some women loved their pregnancies and even miss being pregnant, I've hated it since I was 5 weeks along. I've had HG throughout my pregnancy(still on the zofran which still barely helps) so its made it completely miserable. Not to mention that Ive gotton varicosities and hemorrhoids since I was 26 weeks along.. which of course has meant that what got me pregnant just doesnt happen anymore because of the pain(sorry for the tmi). Plus my son has decided to bunker down on my sciatic nerve and refuses to move! oh and theres the fact that ive gone into false labor(the contractions were so painful that all i could do was vomit and shake) back at 31 weeks and keep getting braxton hicks that hurt(ya know.. ones that last all day and wont let you sleep). And when i was bleeding at 28-32 weeks I got told to deal with the unusualness of my pregnancy and put on bed rest for over a month. So Ive gone the past two nights with maybe 3 or 4 hours total of sleep.. and not being able to keep down more than some gaterade and tomato soup. Its so frustrating to feel like crap every single day for over 8 months.. yet if I dare say that I hate pregnancy people are so cruel and rude about it. Have any of you ever felt this way.. where your just so ready to have the pregnancy over? Heck I've wished several times that I could just go in, get knocked out, and wake up with a baby in my arms instead of my belly.. is that So bad? and if not then why do people act like im some overdramatic person, or a bad person? rawr! okay rantings done..

kris_kelsey · February 2012

if i were experiencing what you have been through I would hate pregnancy too. I cried and cried having terrible nausea/vomiting for just 9 weeks (was on zofran which sorta helped and sorta made it worse due to constipation). So hats off to you, and no condemnation here.

huahualove · February 2012

I've had a lot of the same issues as you. My DH even said to me the other day that it would be nice if I could just go into a coma until the baby is ready to be born. I want what's best for him, but I'm so ready to be done with being pregnant. Several people have asked me if we plan on having any more kids just with all the issues I've had, I will still want at least one more, but I know that I won't be able to do it while working full time, I just won't be able to do it again. At least we are in the finally stages of it, I hope that it gets better for you and that your LO comes out healthy and happy.

mikeanddianaanderson811 · February 2012

i enjoyed my first 2 pregnancies but this one is kicking my butt. I think its ok to not like being pregnancy. People are rude and do not realize how hard it can be on some women. By saying we don't like being pregnant doesn't mean that we are not wanting our babies or that we blame them its just hard feeling yucky for soooo long. I hope you get some relief so that the last few weeks arent so bad. T&P heading your way.

lalyssalou · February 2012

Long before I got pregnant, I was working with a girl who was constantly running to the bathroom. I thought she was over dramatic and it really irritated me to work with her. I would always say, "Women have been getting pregnant since the dawn of time- if it was really so bad, God or evolution would have made some changes by now."

Obviously, I have since eaten my words. I too have had over sensitivity and nausea in addition to horrible sciatic pain, carpal tunnel, high blood pressure, swelling, and headaches. DH wants to have several children in close age ranges, but with how much I've hated being pregnant, he's taken it very personally and says things like, "I guess we'll have to wait a lot longer to have the next one" or "Maybe we shouldn't have another if you're so miserable." It doesn't mean I don't want more or that being pregnant won't be worth it at the end- it just means I will be SO GRATEFUL when it's over, and it's not something I want to deal with every day of my life.

Every time I run into a young mother, she tells me how much she loved being pregnant and how much she wishes she was me- uh, no. My pregnancy is not kittens and roses, so please stop telling me I should be loving every second of it. It is perfectly acceptable to eagerly look forward to the end.

psychgrrl · February 2012

I haven't had to deal with anything close you what you are going through, but I can say that I have not enjoyed this experience. I just don't enjoy being pregnant. I had one of my husband's friend's wives lean over at a party and confess to hating both of her pregnancies. It made me feel better to know that I wasn't the only one. Society tells us we should be happy to be pregnant and anything but is unacceptable. It's more than just a little annoying. I actually had someone tell me I wasn't allowed to complain about anything pregnancy-related because "I choose to get pregnant."

MommaMel94 · February 2012

Ive had that comment made several times.. well in a round about way. Im 17 so whenever i mention any frustrations with this pregnancy I either get told that I chose to end up this way or that its part of pregnancy. My first ob apt. i was horrified at how the docter spoke to me. I hadnt been able to keep down more than a few sips of water in over 5 days.. so i went into her office at 6 weeks along only to have her get a very rude tone and tell me that nausau* is a normal part of pregnancy and i didnt need any 'drugs'.(i had already tried b6, unisom tablets, ginger, ext). it took her a good 10 minutes to realize that i really was sick. when i got down to be fully evaluated i was told that if i hadnt forced fluid down and if id waited another day or two to come in that i would have miscarried. I can understand how people look down on younger moms but most of my frustration comes from every time something comes up(like the bleeding) people think im over exagerating or what not, but thats not the case atal. sorry im still in venting mode, as seeing im sitting in my living room festering on this(sadly) thankyou for your reply.

cmurphy09 · February 2012

I think it's fair to b!tch about your situation... Saying you 'hate pregnancy' is a bit much, I think saying it's been a less than enjoyable experience & you're ready for it to be over with is a fair choice of words though. The ppl who have negative reactions to the term 'i hate pregnancy' are probably sensitive b/c they may have fertility issues, etc.

Even though you're going through a rough time, try to focus on the positive, like bringing a new life into the world & remember it could always be worse. It may seem tough now, but everyone in their life at some point or another go through hard times.

Stef33 · February 2012

I hear ya. Before getting pregnant SO and I wanted 3 kids. Throughout this whole pregnancy I've told him that I honestly don't think I ever want to do it again. When I told my mom her response was "I don't understand that, all my pregnancies were so easy. I never had any symptoms." Well thanks but that really doesn't help me at all mom. I had horrible morning sickness from week 10 to week 19 or so and then ended up with pre-e. It's annoying when people judge you because you say you don't love being pregnant. Like it makes you a bad person. It doesn't mean I won't/don't love my baby; she already means the world to me, it just means that I am not one of those women who wants to be pregnant all the time.

lissag24 · February 2012

My pregnancy has been a cake walk compared to your and I hate being pregnant. I don't think there's anything wrong with not liking the process it doesn't me you don't love your little one and it doesn't even mean you won't do it again it just means for 9 months of your life your a little less happy. I hate how my body looks and I hate my stretch marks that I will now have for the rest of my life.

Ruby412 · February 2012

I completely hear you!

Being pregnant is not glamorous. Between the nausea, heartburn, sleepless nights, huge/uncomfortable belly, body changes, discharge, random people wanting to touch me... I have not enjoyed it either!

I always smile and say everything is fine when others ask. But my MIL told me she hated all 3 of her pregnancies too. I think it's a pretty common thing.

Just because "everyone" does it does not mean it feels good! Just trying to keep my eye on the prize... and I hope you hang in there too!

BetterTogether1023 · February 2012

No judgement here.... I would hate being pregnant too if I had one thing after another... I haven't had many issues (nothing major) and I don't like being pregnant as it is. It's worth it because we get to have a baby but I would NEVER want to be pregnant for the experience alone- I haven't met anyone who likes pregnancy in RL yet. Hope your baby stays healthy and keeps cooking but lets up on your body a bit!

jessandandy09 · February 2012

it is FINE to hate pregnancy. It is really hard on our bodies. Hell, I didnt even want to be a mom. Once I had my children I loved them more than anything in the world, but before I had them I didnt want to. If you think people give you snarky comments about not "loving" pregnancy, try telling people you dont want to have more kids, but are knocked up. YIKES does that upset people. ONe previous poster said that the people who are upset may have fertility issues, and that could be true because there are so many women who want babies and cant conceive, this would be a hard statement for them. But for everyone else, they should face remembering that pregnancy is no picnic. Oh and yes all pregnancies are different so it may be easier for some women, but jeez people need to lay off the judgement.

MrandMrsHull · February 2012

Hearing what your pregnancy has been like, no judging from me.

TucktheTurtle · February 2012

Compared to you, I've had a perfect pregnancy. I still think the only good part of pregnancy is getting a baby at the end.

Jinnifah · February 2012

I would say that I have had a relatively easy pregnancy. Minor aches and pains, minor m/s, minor insomnia etc. And I hate being pregnant. I have hated it since m/s kicked in around week 7. If I had any of the issues you're describing I would probably be very difficult to live with.

So yeah, I can understand how you would feel that way. I can't wait to meet my baby, but I am so done with pregnancy :S

jp0129 · February 2012

I have always said. I want kids I just dont want to go through the process to have one. I haven't had anything like you and I am not a big fan of being pregnant. You constantly have to find a bathroom, you get yeats infections just because, nothing fits, and even chewing gum gives you heartburn. Yet even with all of this it takes one little kick to the stomach to be reminded of the small miracle growing inside and just why exactly you are enduring all of this for 9 months.

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