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Wanting to Adopt/ Worried About Protecting DS
I am very, very new to the process (just started researching agencies, sending away for info, etc.) We have a 14 month old son, and are wanting to grow our family through adoption in the next year or so. My main concern is protecting ds through the process. Our main agency we're interested in deals primarily in open adoption, where we would put together a book of our lives and such. I'm sure this is something that can be answered through the agency, but thought some of you may know too.
How much will I have to include in the book about ds? I know it seems silly, but we're fairly private people and I hate the idea of his picture being in our book or too many details about him in general. Am I crazy to be worried? Anyone deal with something like this before?
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Re: Wanting to Adopt/ Worried About Protecting DS
I haven't gotten that far into the process yet, but we also have a young son and are looking to adopt another child, so I was concerned about this as well. From the family profiles I have been looking at of couples with other children, they show a picture of the child with their name, and a brief little schpeel about him/her, but nothing too detailed.
From what I understand so far, I don't think the profile is supposed to contain any real identifying information about the family, just an idea of what life in your family is like. I am pretty new at this too, so maybe I am not correct about that.
I am really interested in seeing what everyone else has to say, because I was wondering the same thing a few weeks ago.
Good luck and I hope that someone who has done this already can answer the question for you with more certainty and info. :-)
Ditto Rachel. A profile book isn't going to be, "We're the XYZ Family, we live at 123 Main St in Seattle, and here are our child's vital statistics." It IS meant to give an expectant family an idea of what each of you are like, and what you're like as a family, just a general snapshot of your life.
We're thinking about adopting again next year. We fully expect DD's picture to be in the profile book, a little something about what she likes ("Cheerios and coloring"), and how excited she'll be to be a big sister.
Ditto Dr. L.
The attorney/agency we've been talking to for adoption #2 has actually advised us to make sure we're not putting to many photo's of DD in our profile. While she is a very important part of our family and including her is important, the main focus of our profile should be me and DH, since the BP are picking AP's.
They recommended making sure that we had pictures of just DH & I doing activities as well as only a few photo's of us with DD (she'll have her own little blurb like Dr. L said as well).