Baby Showers
Is this bad form?
Initially my best friend said she was so excited to throw me a baby shower. A little while later, I find out she's coordinating it with my mother (which my mother was excited about). I guess there were some issues with my best friend getting back to her in a timely manner (think 3 weeks plus) and so my mother told her that since she (my bf) has 2 young kids, she would take the pressure off and have her friend help her. My bf was apparently really happy and still said she'd be glad to pick up or run any errands if needed.
My dilemma is that I read somewhere that it's not socially acceptable for a mother to throw her daughter a baby shower bc it's like asking for gifts for her grandchild. Now I feel guilty-ish.
Thoughts?
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Re: Is this bad form?
My mom organized and threw mine. It was today actually. And there were several people who thanked her for doing it.
I wouldn't worry
I don't think anyone here has ever said it was bad form for a mother to host the shower. I've only seen people here tell women not to host their own baby shower.
OP- It's fine in this day and age.
The whole "mothers shouldn't throw showers" thing is still alive and well here and my mom is the first to talk smack about a shower thrown by a mom for her daughter.
So yeah, to get around that, my aunt/godmother is the hostess of my shower, but in reality, my mother is probably funding 90% of the shower and doing 75% of the work.
Customs like this is very local though, so if you've never heard of it before, chances are that none of your guests have, or that they don't care.
This.
But I do not care if other people's mothers throw them a baby shower! I think it's nice of your mom to do so!
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.