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jemgirl202
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FTM and I dont like not knowing when...
jemgirl202
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So this is my first pregnancy to make it this far. Im so excited! Im 38 weeks tomorrow. However, Im a planner...I cant help it, I just am. I dont like not knowing when the baby will come.
I know so many other pregnant people right now and some of them are barely 36 weeks and wishing for the baby to be born. I am not one of them. Being 38 weeks, I know its pretty safe but I dont mind waiting until my due date. Hubby and I have so much to do still and I want to finish it all before our baby comes.
HOWEVER, I have been miserable this week. I have been slowly loosing my mucus plug (TMI sorry), I have been having contractions like crazy but nothing consistant, been feeling sick, having mentrual-like cramps, SEVERE lower back pain, etc... etc...
Doc told me last week Monday that they will start doing the internal exams tomorrow and just to start prepping since the baby could arrive anytime between now and my due date.
I know its impossible to tell, but is it possible the baby is coming soon? All the symptoms have been getting worse everyday.
I have my hospital bag packed but we just bought a new car and need to register it and then get the carseat installed and finish the nursery. Im starting to get worried that the baby will be here before we are ready for him.
Im so conflicted, I want my baby here but I also want to be ready.
Anyone else in the same position? Am I worrying for nothing? Or is it just 3rd trimester nesting turning into anxiety? lol
Also anything I can do to make all my symptoms go down so I can make these last couple weeks more comfortable?
Sorry there are so many questions, I am new to all this.
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Re: FTM and I dont like not knowing when...
First of all you just need to take a step back and relax. Stressing out isn't good for you or the baby.
Check with your doctor in the morning, but when I was have horrible back pain I was told to take tylenol. It should definitely help with the pain which should hopefully help you relax too.
A lot of the stress and anxiety probably has to do with nesting but if you don't feel you are ready yet then I completely understand why you are worried! I went through the same faze (only mine was at about 32 weeks). What should help is if you make a list of everything you need to do, then break it down for each day. Say on monday you want to wash the stuff baby will need when you first get home from the hospital (sheets and first weeks worth of clothes). Make a list for the week but don't overwhelm yourself on each day. Make sure there are some hard things but also some easy things that you can sit in front of the TV doing. I always felt helpless thinking about everything, but once I had it written down I felt more in control.
I hope this helps! Just remember that no matter what you need to RELAX
My poor husband is trying his best to get the bigger stuff done. Its just hard since he works and goes to school. So his time is limited and he is a very proud guy and wont let anyone help him. (my dad keeps offering to help)
He thinks there is no possibility of the baby coming early and that makes me nervous. My hubby thinks he has time to get this stuff done but time is ticking. Plus with all these symptoms Im getting nervous that labor could be coming soon.
I know we will get through it and everything will work out but Im just one of those people who depend on a list and freak out when its not done and Im sure nesting is not helping lol.
My OB scheduled me for an induction, so I have had the luxury of planning and my mom is even flying into state for the birth of her first grandbaby. However, my OB is now saying that she might try to push it out a little longer. This has got me all sorts of freaked out because I planned everything around this date! I took off work two weeks ago, my husband already worked his leave out with his job, and my mom is flying in- if this baby doesn't come when my OB told me he would, everything is screwed up!
I wouldn't mind waiting for my actual due date, but because my OB said I could plan, I planned- and now if things change, I'm so in trouble. I totally feel ya on the need to prepare!
I know exactly what you mean about being crazy busy. My husband is a pilot and is gone more then half the week. I was freaking out about getting everything done on time and he fought me like crazy (it must be a man thing to think that the baby is going to wait until they are ready). If I asked him now he would probably say he was glad we got everything done early because we have now just been waiting. Just remind your husband that if he thinks things are busy now just wait until the baby is here and he is still trying to get everything ready. The sooner everything is done (even if that means help from someone else) the more time he will be able to relax and spend with you before the baby shows up!
If it helps make him a list too. The days that my husband wasn't working he got a huge list of things to get done and he knew I would flip out if things didn't get done when I was home. I think it helped him stay on track because he was able to see what he needed to do instead of just hearing me (plus men never listen the first ten times anyway!)
I hope you guys get everything ready before the baby comes!
I think everyone struggles with those feelings close to the end. I remember being completely miserable at the end because I so desperately wanted to hold my baby boy. It especially sucked when my due date came and went. I was prepared for that to happen since that's totally normal but it's hard not to be bummed.
Just keep reminding yourself that it's really only a matter of days until your baby arrives!
Also, as a new parent you will learn very quickly that your schedule/plans will mean very little -- it will all be about adapting to your LO's schedule from now on... waiting for delivery day is just the beginning.
Keep yourself comfortable by keeping your feet elevated, drinking lots of water, eating healthy, taking Tylenol if you need it, getting lots of rest, maybe going to get a pedi & massage/hair done... whatever floats your boat.
Knowing that your baby will be arriving within the next few weeks is really all you need to know -- newborns don't really need much! Just food, a comfy blanket and lots of cuddles.
I'll love you forever,
I'll like you for always,
As long as I'm living my baby you'll be.
- Robert Munsch
Also, remember the store will always be there. If you find out you need something once baby arrives, you'll be fine.
You'll be so wrapped up in getting to know your LO that you won't be thinking about any of these things anymore.
I'll love you forever,
I'll like you for always,
As long as I'm living my baby you'll be.
- Robert Munsch
I am very much with you on being a planner. I typically have my life scheduled for weeks if not months in advance with appointments and business travel. This is the first thing I feel like I can't micromanage and it's making me a little nutso
I'm going to ask my OB at my next appointment if we can set an induction date. I know I could still go early, but atleast I would have a sort of "deadline". And also, going early would be so very welcome for me that I think it would make up for the surprise haha
I'm a planner too and like you I was going crazy getting things ready, noting every symptom and hoping it was time. But now that I look back, one of my favorite parts of going into labor was the surprise part. It was exciting to just be sitting around wondering/hoping it was time and then for it to just hit ya! I loved that part. I ended up having to have a c-section so I more than likely won't get to experience that this time and I'm kinda bummed I don't get the best surprise again!