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Advice? s/o rooming in/repeat c-section, no nursery...

JARbabyJARbaby member
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Was thinking DH should be with Caroline at home at night but my hospital only rooms in and I have to stay 3 nights.

I am wondering if I should have him stay...and have C stay with Mom at night (she lives with us)

The nurses will gladly take her to the nurses station and bring her to feed at night if I wanted...I just remember last time DH go no rest and neither did I so sending him home seemed logical.

 

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  • bellpeppersbellpeppers
    nurses station, but that's just me.  if dh is more rested he can help you more once you get home :)
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  • JARbabyJARbaby member
    Thats what I am thinking, or maybe have him stay the first night so he can get the baby. I was much more mobile the 2nd night.
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  • byrne15byrne15 member

    what we will probably be doing next time around...

    dh stays with me at hospital.  after my 1st c-sec i was in a lot of pain and he would help me out a lot so i didnt have to ring the button all the time.

    ds will stay with gma or she will stay at our house (we will 3 miles apart) and ds can come visit during the day

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  • Cree629Cree629
    I'd go with the nurse's station and let DH stay at home with your DD.  He will be more rested (you both will!) and your DD will also benefit from having her Daddy at home with her at night.
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  • Ally3411Ally3411
    Sounds like sending LO to the nursery is best for all of you... he can be with DD so things can remain somewhat normal, and you can get rested up before going to take care of a toddler and a newborn! GL!!!!
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  • Good2BdaMommyGood2BdaMommy
    After my c/s I could not have taken care of DD on my own without DH. I can't even imagine it.
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  • tifvolleytifvolley member

    I've never had a c-section, so I don't know recovery firsthand, but I would be worried about needing help picking up the baby, getting out of bed, etc.  I've heard the first couple of days are pretty hard to handle without assistance.  Maybe have DH stay with you the first night or two?
     

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  • Marie TourvilleMarie Tourville
    I had my ds stay with my mom for the first night and then after that dh went and stayed at home with him.
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  • JARbabyJARbaby member
    imagetifvolley:

    Needing help picking up the baby, getting out of bed, etc.   

     

    That is the hard part the first night. Maybe we will play it by ear...just wanted to see if I was being logical or too "romantic" about it...

     

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  • blondie3379blondie3379

    I would send him home.  My DH stayed with me the entire 3 days and I kept thinking after the fact that those 3 days could have been saved to be at home with us POST delivery.

    I liked having him there, and Charlie didn't even stay in the nursery.  Even if my next child didn't stay in the nursery like Charlie did, I would still have Curtis go home...at least for one night.

     Oh, and my sister's husband stayed at home with my niece when she had my nephew.She went to daycare one day, but that was it. Maybe have your mom on standby to watch Caroline, but let him do his thing with her too. I think it's important to have stability during that time.

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  • ABMcKinneyABMcKinney
    My DH will stay with me... I had a c/section and we did not send our DS to the nursery at all. The next one won't go either.
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  • carolinagcarolinag member

    I would probably plan on having DH stay with me the first night and leave Caroline with your mom. That way you can feel out if you'll be able to handle everything on your own. Hopefully the first night will be enough and you can send him home the second and third night. I definitely needed my guy with me when we kept the baby in the room as it was hard to get up and stuff. If your mom lives with you that shouldn't throw your DD off her normal routine too much either which is nice.

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    BTW - what are you thinking of naming the 2nd one? I'm a Caroline so I'd like to see what names people think go nicely with it!?

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  • MrsLuedersMrsLueders
    My hospital the first night after a c section you weren't allowed to have your baby in your room unless you had someone there with you all night. So, if that is the case then nurse's station would be a good option.
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  • mirandaleemirandalee

    This was my second c/sect and the hospital also did not have a nursery. DH did not stay w/ me at all during my hospital stay. He stayed at home w/ Chloe. But we regretted it, at least that first night. While I recovered fairly quickly and didn't have too much trouble getting out of bed that first night pain-wise, it was difficult having the catheter in the way and the IVs. I wished DH was there that first night to assist w/ diaper changes and swaddling, I hated having to page the nurse to help me change my child. I was taken off the IVs and the catheter was removed the next morning, so night 2 was not an issue having DH stay at home.

    I recommend having DH there w/ you the first night, just from my own personal experience. Have him go home and sleep day 2 as much as he can.

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