January 2012 Moms

Dh not interested in sex at all (vent)

My dh and I stopped having sex or doing anything sexual back in September. He cut me off when I started getting big and after lo really started moving around in my belly. He said it freaked him out there was a baby in there. Last week I was cleared by the dr for sex and we did attempt it that night. He wasn't really into it and it hurt so bad that we had to stop. Well last night I approached him again and all he wanted to do was cuddle. I got upset because I feel like he has zero interest in sex and it makes me feel completely unwanted. When I try to talk to him about it he says he hates feeling like I'm mauling him and forcing it. I don't see how I'm mauling him just by showing interest in sex and making advances towards him like I always did. I don't know what to do! Its been 6 months and Im going crazy! He has been a wonderful father and so supportive of me. I know the whole pregnancy changes freaked him out but I'm 6 lbs away from my prepregnancy weight and look like I'm back to normal. I know he's not cheating or anything do I dont know what to do. Im just so upset! I miss being intimate with my dh :(
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Re: Dh not interested in sex at all (vent)

  • DH may need some time to recover from the birth mentally.  He did see a baby come out of you, and even though you're recovered, that can be a scarring thing to watch.  It isn't an excuse to never have sex with you again though.  Maybe if you're open with him about how you feel about it, he'll be open with you so you can make sure you're both comfortable with it and really enjoy yourselves. ;)
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