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Attachment Parenting
rosiemomma
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Little Rose is 2 1/2.
Teaching Sharing.....
rosiemomma
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I took my 2.5 year old dd to a local children's science museum that we love and frequent. I have been informing her that we share when we are there, which she generally does fine with but today had trouble. She learns well from natural consequences and lately has shown interest in people and their feelings so today while 'sharing' with some fellow two-year-old playmates I showed her that the other boy was "upset when you took his toy" She looked and then acted as if she didn't care about it.... I let her know "If you want to make friends you need to be kind" she proceeded to continue in this manner and gently shoved the other kids away from the train exhibit... I again explained she needed to share while we were there so she left the other kid alone but wasn't happy about it.
OK so my question is how would you handle this type of situation? I want her to sort things out with other children but my daughter is bold and a more sensitive child may not speak up... I feel like I don't want her to 'bully' but also want her to learn!
Any Advice?
Little Rose is 2 1/2.
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Re: Teaching Sharing.....
I think she is probably still too young to be terribly persuaded by what other kids think of her. She saw a toy she wanted, so she took it. And that strange kid looks sad about it, but she doesn't know the kid, and she got what she wanted out of it.
Personally, if DS were to take something from another kid, he has to give it back. The consequence is that if you take something from someone by force or without asking, you don't get to use it. It's not completely natural because it requires intervention by me, but he is not even three. I don't expect his behavior to be guided by social conventions quite yet.
I think you can still encourage thinking about other peoples feelings and how her behavior affects them, but I wouldn't rely on that kind of thinking to guide her behavior completely. Hope that makes sense.