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bluejayway
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Feeling defeated
bluejayway
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I am past my due date and not dilated or effaced at all. My plans for a VBAC are quickly being dashed. With DD, I went to 42+2 and was induced with Cervadil because I was also not dilated at all. But the placenta detached and my water broke and was full of meconium and blood and DD's heart rate plummeted after 10 hours of labor and little progress and I had an emergency c-section. Even being two weeks late (and my dates were correct), DD was only 6lbs 4oz.
My OB is comfortable letting me go to 42 weeks and is even happy to do a pit induction if I am dilated to 2cm to start, but I am just seriously starting to doubt that it's ever going to happen. I have been having contractions on and off for a week, and the baby is quite low, but there is just nothing going on there. I know babies will come out on their own, eventually, but given my history and the fact that DD didn't handle going that long well (or continue to grow after a certain point), I am not willing to go past 42 weeks. I am feeling like if I am going to end up with a CS anyway, I might as well just do it on my own terms. I'm disappointed, as I really felt this time would be different. I'm just thinking maybe my body is not meant to labor, but I'm not sure if this worry eclipses that of having a RCS with an 18-month-old to care for at home. Ah. Decisions, decisions.
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Re: Feeling defeated
Hang in there! Pre-labor cervical checks are pretty meaningless. They don't tell you anything about when you will go into labor. Maybe don't get checked if you are still pregnant for your next appointment, since it sounds like they are discouraging you.
I hope it works out for you. Things can change at any moment.
positive thoughts! you and your baby and the placenta are strong, the issues with your DD don't mean they are going to happen again. (i keep telling myself this too, as some of what you went through i did as well)
i know it seems like going forward with the C/S would be a good way to regain control, but just keep reminding yourself why you wanted a vbac in the first place. your body can do this! you have all of our support and T&P
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I suspect I will be in the same position as you in a few months. My DD was born at 42wk1dy, with an induction starting from 0cm 0 effacement.
Would you consider going for induction accupuncture? I'm also planning to visit a chiropractor, to make sure LO can settle in my pelvis and put pressure on the cervix.
Try to stay positive! You still have time and things can change very rapidly.
Hang in there! You still have time and for all you know you could go in labor tomorrow.
The avg pregnancy lasts 38-42 weeks so as long as things look good try to keep positive thoughts in your head.
You could try the hypnobabies Baby Come Out track along with acupuncture, and walking to see if you can get things going. (I recommend hypnobabies tracks b/c I used the turn breech baby one along with spinningbabies to successfully turn DD at 37 weeks).
Remember don't let the past define the present, this is a different pregnancy and your body CAN do this!
Hang in there! Both my kids came past 41 weeks, and those last few days/weeks are THE longest, slowest days I have ever experienced. It is so, so hard to believe that your body will go into labor, I know how you feel.
Try to remind yourself that this is a different pregnancy, and will be a different birth, too.
DS2 - Oct 2010 (my VBAC baby!)