Question of the Week?

mhaas28 · February 2012

Sorry this is late, Liam has been one cranky baby the last couple of days...

I saw this question on BOTB... So, I am stealing it. Also, if anyone has any ideas for questions they would like to ask feel free to send me a message!

At what age did you lose your virginity and how old would you want your son or daughter to be?

I think next week I will think of a tame question!

mhaas28 · February 2012

I was 21 and it was to my now BF. We had been dating for over 6 months and I realized he was the one I had been waiting for (so cheesey). I was not his first though. I hope Liam will be in college when he loses his and be in a very committed relationship. I will also tell my son that 2 forms of BC work best! You never know when the pill won't work

nettie27 · February 2012

I think it is necessary to remind everyone here that we are a support group, no flaming! (mainly because i feel like some flaming is about to come my way!)

I was 14 years old (almost 15!). I started dating Bobby at 12 years old (we're married now!) so while yes i agree this is a young age, I don't regret it. It was awkward and unexpected but it happened. He was a complete gentleman the entire time. And he remembered to call me the next day!

I hope my girls wait until they are at least 18. I believe that most young men are out to "hit it and quit it" and i don't want my girls to be heart broken.

ITGurl0626 · February 2012

I lost my virginity at 16 years old. I look back & laugh about the fact that it was me who didn't want to talk to him anymore. I was a little embarrassed he saw all of me & a little ashamed of myself for allowing it to happen. He still called me and we dated each other on & off for 5 years after that.

Like Nettie, I do believe that young boys just want to "hit it & quit it". I would rather Giselle wait until she has graduated from high school.

kje120 · February 2012

It was right before I graduated high school and I was 18. I'm embarrassed to say I basically did it to get it over with and looking back I wish I had waited for it to be with someone special.

I hope that Andrew waits until he's at least 18 and can be responsible. Can't believe I'm even thinking about my little baby having sex!

ITGurl0626 · February 2012

kestock120:

I'm embarrassed to say I basically did it to get it over with and looking back I wish I had waited for it to be with someone special.

Girl, I think this is more common than you think. I was 16 & looking back I think that was part of my reasoning to just do it too.

JennDave+1 · February 2012

18 with my now husband. We have been together for 13 years married for 8 this April.

I guess old enough to be responsible about it.

AMB11 · February 2012

I was 15 and my BF at the time was 16 so both of us were relatively young. We were together for 3 years and then on and off for another 6 years until I met my now husband. I definitely don't regret it because he was my first love...our whole relationship on the other hand is full of many OTHER regrets.

I would love for my boys to wait until they are 18 and in a committed relationship, but something tells me that might be wishful thinking. As a PP said, my DH and I need to make sure they understand that bc is not only the girl's responsibility.

campbaby76 · February 2012

21 and I think I was of the same mind. "Let's just get this over already." I was with the guy for 5 years in all but looking back he was a huge douche canoe. I am SOOOOO glad that I didn't end up marrying him. He had named me as the beneficiary of his life insurance because he was pretty sure we were going to get married but then cheated on me. He has since married her and she has pretty much ruined his life. I feel terrible for him when I hear how things are going but I am so so so glad that I didn't marry him. I sometimes wonder if he has forgotten to change his beneficiary so that I end up with it.

As for my kids.... I don't really want to think about it, Hopefully out of high school and as a boy mom I intend to raise a boy who doesn't want to "hit it and quit it"

stefaniew26 · February 2012

i was 18 with my first "true" boyfriend in college... do i regret it? yes and no. yes because looking back, i didnt even love him and i thought it was the "right" thing to do (stupid reason to do it) and no because i made the choice to do it and it could have been a way worse way to loose it/give it up. strange to think about my baby girl having sex. i definately want her to wait until she is in college. im just going to do my best to have her understand its not something to take lightly. i know its unrealistic to have her wait until she married so i just want her to be in a good steady long term relationship where both her and the guy are adult enough to talk about sex openly before doing anything. i think its crazy today that kids have sex but get all shy and akward when about it. (not flaming ppl who did it at a young age) my other hope is that she will feel comfortable enough to talk to me when she feels she might be ready to take that step ( i realize this is probably a long shot in hell that it will actually happen)

JenniCollins · February 2012

I was 20. I am a picky person and I didn't want to do it just to do it, so I held out till I met...someone who deserved me (I'm not full of myself I swear). Turns out he was the one, we've been together for 7 years, married for 2, and now have a beautiful daughter together.

I hope Chloe waits for somebody who deserves her. I don't have an age in mind, however I don't want it to be too early...

Twirple · February 2012

I was 23 and a couple of months later, we were engaged, though we didn't marry. He was in the military when we met, and I was enamored with him and blind to some of his less than stellar qualities. When he was discharged and moved back home (and away from me) I got a good look at who he was and what he wanted, and realized that we wanted different things in life. Plus, he didn't treat my friends well.

I would hope that Chase would wait until he is in college and in a committed relationship. I think I would give him the same advice that my Mom gave me. "Wait until you are with the right person, but not until marriage. You want to make sure that you are compatible."

GHBEA · February 2012

Age 20 and I waited until I was married. Then it still took a few months to preform, I was so scared.

I have a 20 year old now and she already is active but I have always talked to both my girls about sex and being safe, what a boy/guy will say just to have sex. I think my oldest knew she was ready at age 19. Then she asked me about getting the merina and we went to the Docs together. I was in the room when she had it put in.

I think being open and honest with your children is the key. Talking early about sex education is also key. Just know their maturity at each stage when they start asking questions.

shaindelr · February 2012

Ugh. I was *barely* 15, and it's the worst white trash dysfunctional story, ever. He was a senior then got expelled from school, was on probation for stealing. He ended up being physically abusive, and I finally broke up with him. My mom was obsessed with "marrying me off" to get rid of me in high school and got me Brides magazine and stuff, so it could have been worse.

The next year, he actually married a girl who was a senior in high school who was in two classes with me, and she harassed me and tried to make my life hell.

I would like to hope Liam would be older, but I will definitely teach him how to treat people and how not to allow other people to treat him.

ams8099 · February 2012

I was 24. DH was 27. We were each other's first.

For my kids, I don't think there is a perfect age. I want them to be in a loving committed relationship. I want them to be safe and smart about it.

ITGurl0626 · February 2012

CTGirl30:

OMG - I was 14. I thought I was sooo mature and was dating an older boy.

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Girl, at 14 we all thought we were mature & had life figured out! Stick out tongue

SandiaPinaMama · February 2012

I'm late to the game, but I want to play!

I was 15, which was too young, but it was with my now-husband, so that made it better. I don't exactly have any regrets about that; it was just that our feelings were too strong to be contained any more. Like a PP said though, we were apparently old enough to be smart about it. I told my mom shortly thereafter, and we went together to get my BC script.

DH's dad actually tried to give him a sex talk the week we got married (about 4 years too late). Yeaahh. Sex will definitely be something that we talk about in our home, not as taboo or shameful, but healthy and respectful. And, of course, I believe that any man that has a child wanted one because if he didn't put the condom on, then he knew what he was getting into (no pun intended).

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