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"Overdue" and whiny [long vent... tl;dr]

soralettesoralette member
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So I'm 41 weeks today.

Honestly, physically, I'm feeling fine and the baby's also doing fine, and if those were the only considerations, I wouldn't even need to post a vent because I'd be content enough to wait it out. It's everything else that's bugging the hell out of me.

1) My OB is out of town until Tuesday. I know most people's OBs' offices don't do this, but my OB shows up at the hospital once you hit 5cm and stays there with you until you've given birth -- regardless of what time of day or night it is or even whether or not she's the one on-call ... the only exceptions being if she's already in another delivery/surgery, sick, or out of town -- so not having my OB in town is a bigger deal to me than it might be for others. Not least because I've discussed, thoroughly, with her, both her policies and my desires for how I want this birth to proceed. But with her out of town, I'm stuck with the luck of the on-call draw.

2) My OB's office doesn't allow women to go past 42 weeks. So even my awesome, wonderful OB will have to discuss an induction with me next week, which sucks. But since I'm past 40wks, I'm having to have two appointments a week... with another OB in the practice, whom I really dislike. She's already tried to scare-tactic me into scheduling an induction for a bullsh*t reason (one that medical research cannot support!) and gave me the hairy eyeball when I said I'd be happy to discuss an induction -- with my actual OB, and not until she gets back.

3) DH and I have been getting daily "Have you had that baby yet?" texts and emails from people -- mostly our respective fathers. Minor, but aggravating.

4) My FIL and 17 y/o BIL are coming into town from the other side of the country for a week the day after tomorrow to meet the LO. Who is, obviously, still an inside-baby. And, of course, they're staying with us. So I am likely to have to deal with entertaining house guests AND an induction + hospital stay simultaneously, and not get any time for DH and I to bond with the baby as a family on our own until after they leave.

5) I'm running out of natural things I'm willing to try to encourage this baby to get the labour ball rolling, since I'm unwilling to go the herbs, tinctures, and/or castor oil route. I even went in for acupuncture yesterday evening, and nothing yet but some vague cramps this morning that went away when I got up, same as I've had all this week. But, hey, at least my sciatica is a ton better!

I just feel like I'm at the end of my rope here. Any way you slice it, I'm not going to get my "ideal" birth -- either "my" OB won't be there, or I'll have to be dealing with house guests, or I'll have to have an induction... or if things go especially sour and I end up needing an induction for medical cause over the weekend, all three.

And, yes, I know... having a healthy baby and a healthy mama at the end is the only goal that "matters"... but the rest of it still disappoints me.

If you got through all of this, I am supremely impressed, and thank you. :-/ Sorry for being so down.

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Re: "Overdue" and whiny [long vent... tl;dr]

  • SeptemberBride'08SeptemberBride'08 member
    (((hugs))) I hope LO comes soon
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  • bluejaywaybluejayway member

    Hang in there. I know what it's like to be overdue and all of the above. But I promise you that once your LO gets here, no matter what route he/she takes, or how it happens, it will all be worth it! I had such a non-ideal birth/situation with my DD, and still, wouldn't change the outcome for anything.

     Good luck.

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    I'm planning to go natural as well (sounds like you are since you don't want an induction, etc...) and this is just my 2 cents. If I were at the stage you're at, I would be taking the herbs/tinctures in your situation. I've started red raspberry leaf pills (yes pills, not tea) myself, but I hear this only PREPARES the uterus or something, but definitely doesn't induce. I also have black cohosh pills on standby in case I get into a situation where I'm as far along as you and my OBs start talking induction. I don't want to start taking them yet because it's still early for me and honestly I'm a little scared of it but if I was in YOUR situation, I'd be popping those things. I actually just did some research earlier on the tinctures, etc. in case I get to the point of needing that kind of thing. I say do your research on the herbs/tinctures and GOOD LUCK!
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  • Kriz_bKriz_b

    The last few weeks suck so much, so vent away. People can get annoying and all you want to do is hang out with your baby.

    My FIL just got here yesterday and will be here for 8 weeks. sigh. It's going to be a long 8 weeks. lol. BUT, I'm sitting on my bed on the laptop and he's entertaining DS so it's a bit of a win.

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  • soralettesoralette member

    imageSeptemberBride'08:
    (((hugs))) I hope LO comes soon

    **hugs** Thank you... :) I hope yours does, too!!

     

    imagebluejayway:

    Hang in there. I know what it's like to be overdue and all of the above. But I promise you that once your LO gets here, no matter what route he/she takes, or how it happens, it will all be worth it! I had such a non-ideal birth/situation with my DD, and still, wouldn't change the outcome for anything.

     Good luck.

     Thank you.... :) I do appreciate the perspective!

     

    imageNatesLady1309:
    I'm planning to go natural as well (sounds like you are since you don't want an induction, etc...) and this is just my 2 cents. If I were at the stage you're at, I would be taking the herbs/tinctures in your situation. I've started red raspberry leaf pills (yes pills, not tea) myself, but I hear this only PREPARES the uterus or something, but definitely doesn't induce. I also have black cohosh pills on standby in case I get into a situation where I'm as far along as you and my OBs start talking induction. I don't want to start taking them yet because it's still early for me and honestly I'm a little scared of it but if I was in YOUR situation, I'd be popping those things. I actually just did some research earlier on the tinctures, etc. in case I get to the point of needing that kind of thing. I say do your research on the herbs/tinctures and GOOD LUCK!

    Yup, definitely planning on going natural. Wrt the herbs/tinctures stuff -- there just isn't enough medical research evidence to support most of 'em for my comfort level, and some of them can be actively dangerous if they're taken incorrectly. So I worry a lot about screwing it up, y'know? Stuff like acupuncture, there's actually a decent body of medical research showing its efficacy... which helps me to feel better about trying it, and helps me in convincing DH that it should be tried, too. :)

    Anyway -- thank you very much, and good luck to you as well!!

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    TW: Living children & Losses:
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