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Baby Showers
Baby shower blues
Disclaimer- this is a bit of a pity party.
I LOVE baby showers. They are my favorite kind of party and I always wanted to have a really great fun one. Some people have their weddings all planned in their heads, well I had my perfect baby shower, down to the games and food.
Our LO was a surprise and not at all timed the way I imagined. I'm currently living in CT and my family and friends are all 3,000 miles away in CA. Unfortunately between the lack of planning and CT's lack of anything that resembles maternity leave, I can't go home for a shower (worse still, probably can't go home until the baby is 1). My mom is coming out here and is going to do a skype shower for me back to CA, and while I truly appreciate it, I can't help being really depressed about it.
I know you should only have a shower for your first, and you can't throw yourself a shower which is why this is so hard for me. I have some friends out here, but no one close enough to throw me a shower plus it just wouldn't be the same. Showers, at least in my opinion, are about getting together with loved ones and enjoying each other over silly games and food. My Skype shower, is basically the opposite of what I want, sure I get to 'see' everyone, but forget about the games and togetherness, it's going to be all about opening gifts people shipped out here and that's it. I feel like I'm being deprived of the one party I ever cared about having.
Sorry for the pity party I just threw for myself.
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Re: Baby shower blues
It's extremely tacky to throw yourself a pity party. Only a close family member or friend should host such a celebration of misery.
Just joking
I'd be bummed about a Skype shower too.
Funny. I'd be bummed as well. At least your Mom will be there. Like the other pp said...throw a really great first birthday party for your LO.
I sympathize with your situation. My family is 800+ miles away and my mom passed away 2 years ago. Doesn't feel like such a fun party when you can't celebrate with family. Nevertheless, I won't be having a shower (DH's work is throwing him a small-ish shower, though). I've had a few offers from friends but it doesn't feel the same when I have no family to share with.
As someone else suggested... could your mom throw you a small shower when she comes to visit you? Might be at least worth talking about
GL!
This literally made me LOL.
Also, I love your siggie pic!
Thanks!
Thanks everyone, I just needed to get that out.
Unfortunately, most of the suggestions aren't really possible. Mom is only coming for about a day and a shower with the friends I have here plus Skype at the same time would just be weird, can't really do both at once. Neither can anyone else afford to come out to visit, and the ones who can would prefer to wait until the baby is here (I don't blame them).
I'll probably try to organize some kind of birthday/meet the baby party when I can finally get out to CA sometime in 2013. Just a little bummed that the family and friends aren't around to share any of this with. This pregnancy has been extremely isolating and lonely for me because I know so few people here, it's basically just my partner and I. I know it's totally a 'first world problem' but it gets me a little down when I know that most of the pregnant people I know are having these parties and seeing their family/friends on a regular basis and I've just been alone. Oh well, as long as the baby and I are healthy I guess that's all that matters.
I totally get where you are coming from; I moved to the current town where we live to join DH while we were dating long distance so I really don't have any close friends here. Most of our friends live out of town and we don't have any family in town either. It's really started to depress me that I won't be having a shower-as cheesy as this sounds one of the reasons is there will be two blank pages in LO's baby book because there won't be a shower. DH and I make enough money to provide what we need for the baby-I'm not being gift grabby-I just hate that we will have bought everything and won't have any items that we can say "oh so-and-so bought this outfit/toy." My mom isn't into becoming a grandparent at all and really has had no interest from day one; DH's mom also really has no interest and has just sent us some coupons for BBB she recieved in the mail with no other comments (we don't even have a BBB within 200 miles of us-darnit!).
On the bright side one thing I thought of was we won't have to deal with unwanted or multiple gifts and everything we buy has been researched and is what we want for LO (we hope-like we know what we're doing!). I would suggest a meet the baby party in CA like you said, I'm sure everyone will be excited to meet your LO and even see you too!
Sorry to sound whiny myself-hope things look up for you and your Skype shower is as fun as it can be!
Awe maddie&stephen, sorry to hear that you are in the same boat. Yeah, it's not about gifts for me either. I seems that people think of showers as this major gift focused thing while I've always just thought they were cool parties. I'm not saying I don't appreciate the help purchasing the items, but for me the focus has always been enjoying everyone and having fun.
Sorry you won't be having a shower either and I'm sorry that your Mom isn't into becoming a grandparent. Mine wasn't either at first but she seems to be coming around.
First world problems, anyone?
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
And is there a single post related to 'Baby Showers' that isn't?
I have seen a few that weren't, but come on here. How much more FWP can you get than to be pitying yourself up for years because you didn't get a bridal shower/baby shower?
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.