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fluttergirlmoonchild79 · February 2012

Doing the normal day to day things like cleaning your house or doing laundry? I used to be one of those people who's house was always clean and laundry was always done and ever since we lost Corbin, the dishes pile up, there's mountains of stuff on our kitchen table, the floor has massive amounts of dog hair, there's an inch of dust on everything and the laundry is a mountain. I just can't seem to bring myself to do anything about it. Now, it's not so bad you need to contact Extreme Hoarding or anything but I feel like my house is disgusting but I can't seem to bring myself to do anything about it. Has this happened to anyone else and if it happened to you and you somehow turned it around, how did you do it? I feel like it's getting so bad that it's going to spiral even more out of control. And it's not like I've been too, too busy to do it. Have had things to do here and there but working from home gives me an extra hour on my lunch break to do housework and I just don't.

dandywarhol · February 2012

Totally. Those every day tasks don't seem that important anymore. It doesn't help that I spent the majority of the day Sylvie was born cleaning, doing laundry, and puttering around the house only to have to rush to the ER a few hours later to deliver my baby. Now, not that everything already reminds me, those tasks have a direct connection to Sylvie and therefore a direct reason for not wanting to do them.

may2806 · February 2012

Yes absolutely. Then I feel guilty because DH ends up doing everything while I lay on the couch. I think it comes from the depression that accompanies grief.

figgs0831 · February 2012

When I came home from the hospital, I dove into cooking and cleaning. I used it as an alternative to dealing with what happened. Sadly, that only lasted a few days and now I can't bring myself to do anything. My couch is my new best friend.

weddedwife · February 2012

I find that I just don't care about this stuff much anymore. I joke to DH that we are "living in filth". Stuff gets done eventually but not until it piles up so high that it has to be done.

olp79 · February 2012

I feel the same way, I would be on the couch the whole day if it was up to me, getting out of bed is a struggle every day. I hope we can get over our loss :-(

pb127 · February 2012

Absolutely. I just don't do it for a while. I don't force myself into doing anything for a week and then after that, i am usually able to either convince myself to tackle one thing each day... or get a housecleaner to come for a day and do it all. I think it's all part of being gentle on yourself.

littlepenguin2012 · February 2012

This is kind of the case for me. I am getting better about it. At first we had people over all the time so it was necessary to clean up. Once everyone went home, I let it go and felt really guilty on the couch while DH cleaned up, made dinner, etc. I was still really sick from the pre-e and HELLP, so he wanted me to rest and tried to get me not to do anything. But now I try to keep it cleaned up at least a little bit and it's not as clean as it was before, but at least it's not too bad. I think it will get better with time.

frogs007 · February 2012

Me. I have no excuses other than I have a hard time bringing myself to do it. I'm home because I haven't started my new job yet. Before I would have cleaned and had a spotless house. . . Now I'm just not at the top of my game and my motivation is zero.

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