What would you do?

drvst8 · February 2012

So my sister is having my nephews b-day party this Saturday. She decided to have it at my Moms church because they didn't have enough room anywhere else. This church just happens to be the exact place where we had Logan's service and is where he is buried. I know she didn't think of this when she was planning it. I'm just so nervous. I go there all the time to talk to Logan...but never when my whole family is there. Should I go and see how it goes....or just get him a gift and see him the next day?

lovemymaddy · February 2012

That's a tough call. When I'm sitting home on my couch I always think that I can do things like that. Aaaaaannnnd then I have a breakdown in the car on the way there and that's my body telling me that I'm not ready yet. I bet that as it gets closer you'll be able to tell maybe?

pottermommy · February 2012

Do what you can handle. If you can't handle being there then don't go. If you do go just make certain that if you need a minute alone that you take it. It might help to get there a little before everyone else so you can go out and see Logan and it will have time to settle in before everyone gets there.

Petunia844 · February 2012

Do you what you need to do, I really struggled over what to do with the baby shower this weekend and I felt so relieved when I just decided not to go. We don't need to prove anything... we just need to do what is best for us, those we love will understand.

Carolee · February 2012

That's a tough call. I might see how I felt the day of and go from there. Your SIL should understand if you don't go, or if you go and have to leave. (((HUGS))) and good luck with your decision.

krysiahamaty · February 2012

Do whatever feels right to YOU. If you don't feel like going, don't go. But like PP said, if you do go, make sure to take any moments you need and if you want to leave, go for it. Hugs.

Gizu92708 · February 2012

I agree with PP.Do what is right for you. And also let your sister know how you feel and that you are going to see how you feel that day. I'm sure she will understand. Hugs and keep us updated .

littlepenguin2012 · February 2012

I just went to two of my nephews' birthday parties this past weekend. I was upfront with DH, BIL and SIL that I would be there, but that I wouldn't probably stay long. It was really hard when we arrived, but it turned out to be not too bad. I would say do what you feel like you can handle.

weddedwife · February 2012

How old is your nephew? I'd say if he's under like 7 then don't bother. If there's so many ppl going to be there that they had to hold it at a church then you probably would not have had "quality" time w/ him anyway & he'll be too busy w/ his friends to care much. I'm sure he'd rather have a one on one visit w/ his auntie the next day anyway! I probably would not go.

Heatherhah · February 2012

Personally I would play it by ear. If you can't go then they should understand and if they don't then just explain why you can't go. I know I will be having a few issues next month for a baby shower for DH cousin and then after that my SIL's shower for her baby girl I am already planning not to go it is just to hard emotionally. Most things we can't avoid the pain we feel this time you can so why make yourself upset if you can help it.

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