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"Dear Birth Mother Letters"

Tiffany946Tiffany946
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Does anyone have any examples?  I am planning to start working on ours this week and I want to make sure I"m saying the right things.
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Re: "Dear Birth Mother Letters"

  • Art TeacherArt Teacher

    This is a link to lots of examples.  The first paragraph is the Dear Birth Mother Letter and the rest of the paragraphs are the rest of the profile.  (This is a link to the agency that we used.)

    https://www.adoptionassociates.net/domestic/dom_waiting_families/?set=0

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  • silliestbunnysilliestbunny member

    I'd love to send you a copy of ours... PM me your address if you'd like.


    We had them professionally done after waiting too long for a match (we were using ones I made.. and loved!).  Once they were printed, we matched and never used them.  Murphy's law!

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  • silliestbunnysilliestbunny member

    Our Chosen Child is a professional service that we hired to do our "never used" profile.  If you go to her site, you'll see several examples.  She does a great job and uses good language in her letters and profiles.  It may give you a jumping off point.


    Also, rely on your agency.  Each agency has their own requirements for profiles.  Some do not want identifying info included (such as favorite teams or colleges) and others don't care.  Some don't want wedding pics and others don't care. 

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  • EclairAngstEclairAngst

    We also used a professional to help us craft our letter.  For us, we just wrote until we couldn't write any more and then paired it down.  That made it easier to be sure we included what we really wanted in it.  

    I thought I'd share this too - I thought it was a great article, relating to writing this letter:

    https://www.americaadopts.com/archives/8057

     

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  • Amberndean09Amberndean09
    Can you send me your example? I am struggling with our lwtter
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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    Our entire profile was only 2 pages, so our Dear Birthparent letter was more of a note, LOL. I'm pretty sure we just thanked her/them for looking at our profile, recognizing that this was a big decision, and hoping to meet her/them soon.

    I agree that the current thinking is to not say "Dear Birthmother/Birthparent". There may be a Birthfather involved, and until they place they're expectant parents anyway. Ironically, DD was already born when her Birthmom saw our profile, so Dear Birthmom would have been appropriate.

    FWIW I wouldn't worry about saying the "right" thing. Write it, run it by some people, and it will be genuine and yours.

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