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Guilty Feelings and Paranoia

mkarnsmkarns member
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Hi. I'm psychotic and I spend my whole day worrying.

I hold DS pretty much ALL day, because I feel guilty for putting him in a swing. I feel like I'm "putting" him to sleep if I put him in there. If I want to get some housework done, I put him in the moby but even then I'm scared to death that his feet are cramped in there too much.

When I swaddle DS, I'm afraid since he cant stretch his legs that it somehow harm him.

When DS sleeps at night, I am constantly getting up to check to see if he's still breathing. Also, I get so worried that the room is too hot and he'll overheat with his swaddle on so I'm always touching his face to see if his cheeks are hot. Last night, I spent about 10 minutes trying to decide if I should get the thermometer out to check his temperature.

And the latest guilty feeling- I miss being pregnant so much sometimes that I get choked up about it. HA- My eyes are actually watering now just writing it. I miss my little guy being in my belly, feeling him move around, eating healthy "for him".

Ugh. Please tell me someone out there is going through the same emotional roller coaster.

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Re: Guilty Feelings and Paranoia

  • traciietraciie
    OMG I am right there with ya.  One night I thought he died because his head and face were cold.  I have him in the snuggle bed between my husband and myself.  And some nights I sit up till I fall asleep watching him sleep.  I wont put him in the pack n play because I cant see if he is breathing in there.  He hates the swing so he is never in there.  I do put him in bouncer during day but when he falls asleep I am always messing with him to make sure he is alive.  Its the hormones!  Nixon is 10 weeks old and it is starting to get better,  Hang in there!
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  • Bride2b2004Bride2b2004 member

    Awww.  You are a FTM, we all have/had our paranoia.  Take it slow and do what feels right.  Definitely do not worry about housework right now, savor this special time.

    Can't help you with missing pg, we aren't having any more children and I am having a tough time with that myself. 

     

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  • catlackeycatlackey

    I was the same way when my DD was this age. I have relaxed a lot over the last 2 months to where I can sleep more and am not constantly worried. I still peek into the PNP to see if she is breathing, and I still feel her cheeks to make sure she isn't too cold or too hot. When she was about a month, my DH thought she had a fever. I ended up taking her temp. about 10+ times (in her ear). She was fine.

    All that said, if you are still feeling this anxious in a couple of weeks, talk to someone. Some anxiety is normal, some can just be unhealthy for you and your LO. Good luck:)

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  • jewernerjewerner
    Last night LO finally slept through the night with the exception of feedings and fell sound asleep immediately after each. It was a miracle. but did I enjoy my rest? Absolutely not. The quiet had me so on edge I was up every 10 minutes to make sure he was still breathing. I'm holding out hope that we'll calm down when they get a little older.
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  • traciietraciie

    i HAVE A 13 & 15 YEAR OLD AND I AM STILL NUTS

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  • Maggie3601Maggie3601 member

    Thank you for posting this! I thought I was alone. Everyday I'm either worried if he's eating too much or too little, sleeping too much or too little. I always check to see if he's breathing, I used to poke him  to see if he was alive, oh and I haven't napped at all since he arrived (Dec.) My mind won't let me relax. It's nuts! 

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  • SmittyPantsSmittyPants member

    It gets better. I was the same way for the first few weeks with my LO. Now that some time has passed, I don't worry as much. 

    However, like a PP said, if these feelings continue for more than two weeks or so, talk to your OB. Feeling anxious is normal and feeling sad about not being pregnant anymore is normal, but if the feelings continue it could be a sign of PPD. 

    Hang in there momma! 

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  • courtneyklvcourtneyklv
    Nope...My baby even slept last night for 7 hours and I wasn't worried. It was great! 
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