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wierd pregnancy comments

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........It seems that lately everyone wants to put in their two cents about all the dangerous and wierd things that I should "watch out for"..... some of which is irrational and just flat-out wrong (BUT still causes me to worry).

I am already so nervous about something going wrong I wish that everyone would stop adding to my paranoia! :)   I will be so happy when the baby is born! 

 

Is anyone else getting weird comments from others or is it just me?

 

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  • gekeler6gekeler6 member
    This is when you just close your ears.  I haven't been getting any advice or any comments (besides how big my belly is), but I have also been through this before.  If you're a FTM I think people feel the need to let you know about their experience and what to do and not do.   If someone told me what I need to watch out for I would just take their advice and give them a smile.  Sometime people do have good ideas, even if you didn't request for them.
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  • salt78salt78 member
    No comments, but nasty looks. Mostly from old ladies at the gym. I assume they think I should not be exercising in my delicate state. Confused
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  • MamasaurusMamasaurus member

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    No comments, but nasty looks. Mostly from old ladies at the gym. I assume they think I should not be exercising in my delicate state. Confused

    I envy you. The old ladies in my aqua aerobics class don't stop at looks and flat out insult me.

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  • ErinR2012ErinR2012
    Listen to your doctor and the (reputable) books, not the "well meaning" people in your life.  Don't let them bother you with their old wives tales, friend-of-a-friend stories, or "I once read..." comments.  They don't know what they're talking about. Don't let them get to you.  If they keep bothering you, I think its fine to say flat out "I'd rather not talk about this...how's your dog doing...?" change the subject!
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  • Vii LiiVii Lii
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    imagesalt78:
    No comments, but nasty looks. Mostly from old ladies at the gym. I assume they think I should not be exercising in my delicate state. Confused

    I envy you. The old ladies in my aqua aerobics class don't stop at looks and flat out insult me.

     

    Gasp! What do they say? Luckily I haven't had any weird comments, but I've had plenty of stares...and most from men! I think they're worried and don't know what to think and are surprised to see me waddling around. 

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  • jemgirl202jemgirl202 member
    imagecontourhands:

    ........It seems that lately everyone wants to put in their two cents about all the dangerous and wierd things that I should "watch out for"..... some of which is irrational and just flat-out wrong (BUT still causes me to worry).

    I am already so nervous about something going wrong I wish that everyone would stop adding to my paranoia! :)   I will be so happy when the baby is born! 

     

    Is anyone else getting weird comments from others or is it just me?

     

     Ugh I hate it too. I stopped being nice.

    My mother in law is by far the worst. She constantly reminds me that my husband was almost 11 pounds. Or tells me about every "horror" story she can think of. She also constantly tells me that our lives are now over because of the baby.

    One thing you have to understand about my MIL, she thinks she knows everything and has all the answers. I do my best to ignore this. When she tells me about the size of my husband when he was a baby, I just respond with, "Well my Dad was 13 pounds when he was born and I was born 8 pounds, so Im not too worried." (Yes my dad was 13 pounds)

    When she proceeds to tell me every horror hospital story ever, I just respond with, "Nothing can be worse than what I went through last year when I found out our baby had no heartbeat at 4 months pregnant and I had to wait for a miscarriage which resulted in more complications which led to me having surgery."

    As for the lives are ruined part. I just roll my eyes. I know everyday isnt going to be sunshine and rainbows but I know it will all be worth it :)

    Im a first time mom too, and I am a little nervous, but I just have to stay focused and think positive. Talk to other moms who have had a good experience, that helped me a lot. Im sure you will do great and I wish you the best :)

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  • Vii LiiVii Lii
    There's nothing worse than the "your lives are over" comment. Stupid. Ok maybe YOU struggled, but don't put your bad juju on me. We aren't the same people. I feel like those who like saying this want vindication for going through their struggles, and it isn't really about you. But still, annoying.
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  • MotherMonsterMotherMonster member
    imageMamasaurus:

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    No comments, but nasty looks. Mostly from old ladies at the gym. I assume they think I should not be exercising in my delicate state. Confused

    I envy you. The old ladies in my aqua aerobics class don't stop at looks and flat out insult me.

    I'm mean and I would insult them back by saying "Remember, if the water is warm around your legs...you just peed in the pool." haha

    So glad I don't get comments anymore. I ended up getting upset with people and telling them off. I see a doctor for a reason and all...

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  • MrsLindinger0905MrsLindinger0905 member

    imageVii Lii:
    There's nothing worse than the "your lives are over" comment. Stupid. Ok maybe YOU struggled, but don't put your bad juju on me. We aren't the same people. I feel like those who like saying this want vindication for going through their struggles, and it isn't really about you. But still, annoying.

    This! I respond with "my life is just beginning." Even though I'm young-ish (24) I've always known I wanted to be a mom, it's just what I was built for. Some people have high aspirations for their careers - I however would have majored in being a housewife if it was offered as a college degree :P And in general you have to go into something like motherhood with a POSITIVE attitude. If you have a negative "this is messing up my life" attitude then it will only live up to those expectations.

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  • abbyann90abbyann90

    I've gotten tons of weird comments. Some rude, some scary, some I don't know WHAT to think of.

    For example, a lady once scolded me outright saying "what did you do? Did you mean to get pregnant? You're too young, you should be ashamed of yourself" --first of all lady, I'm 22. I'm not too young. And YES I did mean to get pregnant and we are very happy about it... RUDE

    Another lady told me (she's about my height) that she got up to walk one day, lost her balance and her belly pulled her forward onto the ground where she was stuck for a couple hours until her hubby came home. She was induced that night due to the event... SCARY

    Another lady asked me how old I am and said "good job" when I told her I'm 22. Not sure what to make of that one. LOL.

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  • gooshbabygooshbaby member
    everyone thinks my pregnancy was unplanned, even though we've been engaged since last year. i'm sick of telling people it was no accident, we wanted a lil one.  i think they think this cuz my fiance has 3 other kids, all of which were unplanned w his ex wife.  so when we told them we were pregnant, they werent very happy. hell, they didnt even show up to the baby shower. like i dont deserve to have a child of my own??? and with the most amazing guy ever?? people can think what they want, but i know the truth and thats all that matters.
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  • bootcampbridebootcampbride

    "She also constantly tells me that our lives are now over because of the baby."

    This drove me nuts last time!  I generally responded with something like "I guess you've regretted having children then" or "I'm sorry for your children".    I do have a child now and guess what?  My life isn't over! It's amazingly richer and more fulfilling than I could ever have imagined.

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