Any other moms pregnant with #2 and nervous/terrified?

Vuja_de · February 2012

I am. I am afraid this baby will have colic, I am afraid this baby won't sleep, I am afraid I won't have energy to chase around and entertain a 2.5 year old and take care of an infant. Please tell me I am not alone!

Sparks in training! · February 2012

totally! I am worried i wont love him as much as my DD. I worry that i wont have energy or time to fit in current life with baby. I am worried DH wont step up as much as i need. I am worried about financially being able to fit in day care.

YOU ARE NOT ALONE

Melanie.Brown · February 2012

You are not alone! I'm excited about having a new baby in the house to cuddle and love on, but I remember how hard it was with just one baby, how in the world am I going to give this new baby everything it needs, and not ignore my 2.5 year old or leave her in front of the TV all day AND keep my sanity?! I think about this every day. But I just keep reminding myself that LOTS of people I know have more than one baby, and they say you just figure it out as you go.

One tip my friend gave me that I thought was great: She had a basket of "special toys" for her 3 y/o that she was only allowed to play with while mommy was nursing. That made nursing a special time for her 3y/o too and managed to avoid jealousy during that time.

buckeyegirl910 · February 2012

I agree with all of the above, you are definitely not alone in any of these feelings. I think we all have them.

hoping4sticky · February 2012

Umm not at all. I'm afraid of not being able to give DD enough attention, I'm an only child so I am afraid of siblings in general, and I am terrified of going back to no sleep and trying to function with an 18 month old!

kccq9 · February 2012

::raises hand::

DD will be 2 1/2 when DS arrives and she's SO busy right now. DD was a pretty easy baby (good eater, slept thru the night 3months and on), but my MIL told me stories about how DH wouldn't sleep as a baby (for the first year!) and she had to carry him around until he would fall asleep. I'm scared DS will follow his daddy's footsteps and be difficult to feed and sleep.

Good luck to you!

bamfs · February 2012

I totally understand your fears/concerns! I felt the same way when we had DS... It honestly wasn't as hard of a transition as I expected and I'm surprised at how easily DS just "fit" in with our routine.

Adding #3 is what I'm concerned about... we thought we were done at DS, so this surprise 3rd has me really anxious because I've heard going from 2 to 3 is harder than going from 1 to 2...

Good luck! You'll do great!

mrsPreggers · February 2012

Oh wow, i am so worried that i wont have enough love for this baby like i do with my first. i didnt feel much of a connection with my belly with this pregnancy like i did my first, which makes me feel like a horrible mom. im really terrified that this baby is going to be very disobediant because my first was a good baby. i get nervous that i wont have enough love for this baby. im glad theres other moms that feel the same way as i do. it reasurres me that im not abnormal for feeling this way. totally thought i was alone.

FormerlyKrista555 · February 2012

I was. Not so much anymore.

You should lurk on the 2under2 board, even though your kids won't both be under 2. The women there are very realistic but also very encouraging. The overwhelming theme there is: "It's not always easy to have 2+ little ones, but it is SO worth it and SO much fun."

Also, most of them have said that it was way easier going from 1 to 2 than it was going from 0 to 1.

I'm looking forward to it now.

cdc1982 · February 2012

You're not alone!!

I'm scared of finding time for #2 & DS, that I'll have trouble BF'ing & so many things!

octbridemaryland · February 2012

FormerlyKrista555:
I was. Not so much anymore.

You should lurk on the 2under2 board, even though your kids won't both be under 2. The women there are very realistic but also very encouraging. The overwhelming theme there is: "It's not always easy to have 2+ little ones, but it is SO worth it and SO much fun."

Also, most of them have said that it was way easier going from 1 to 2 than it was going from 0 to 1.

I'm looking forward to it now.

This is so relieving to hear. I do think it will be all worth it in the end. Even if having to little ones close together is difficult for me, I think it will be so beneficial for my daughter to have a sibling close to her in age.

Initially, I had it in my head that the second baby would be easier, because I had done it once already. I started getting nervous when I read on the boards that some 2nd time moms found having two children close together in age very difficult and harder than the first. I like to be realistic and prepare for the worst. Most of the time, I find people make it out to be harder than it is.

That being said, this pregnancy has been much more difficult and tiring than my first. I was definitely not prepared for that.

P.S.10 · February 2012

Yes, I'm getting more and more worried. We have such a good thing going with DD right now, and I'm so worried that bringing #2 into the picture is going to ruin all the fun/structure/freedom we have at the moment. I've heard that transitioning for 1 to 2 is easy, but I've also heard it is really hard, so I think it just depends on who you talk to. We had a tough transition with DD, though, so I'm worried if #2 is harder than that.

cjevar · February 2012

You are not alone, I have a 2.5 year old also and have the same fears. Just trying to think positive. The only thing that is keeping me from freaking out is that I am having another girl and I know what to expect with that..but we will see :-)

kris_kelsey · February 2012

i wouldn't say I am terrified but I am concerned. My first was a very good baby and having two good babies doesn't really happen to people right?! So I just figure that this one could be more difficult. I just pray that I don't have a baby with a metabolic/digestive disorder (i have a few co-workers whose little ones have PKU and other issues) and I would be so scared to have to deal with that.

Cheerio B · February 2012

You're not alone.

DD is going through this independant 'do it myself' phase but she can't do that much by herself so we deal with multiple melt downs every day. How will I handle crying because her glove is on crooked, crying because she doesn't want to go to school, crying because she wants to cry, all while holding a newborn? I have no clue. I'm trying not to think about it.

CTri17 · February 2012

I'm not yet, though i don't know how I'll get through the nb phase if this one is like my DD was for the first 2 mo....I may go crazy

FroggyFarts · February 2012

I'm worried. DS will be 4 1/2 when his little brother arrives. Even though both SO and I will be able to be at home with LO and DS for the whole summer, I worry. I worry because DS has needs and a schedule. He won't be up all night with a baby like we will so he'll be fully functioning while we're halfway there and sleep deprived.

I worry about adjusting DS to his little brother without him feeling left out and neglected. I worry about if this LO will be a lot of work or easy going. I worry about school starting for SO and I in the Fall (we're both in college) and for DS as well. I'm just a worrier.

In reality, I know that we'll make it happen even if it means swapping baby shifts in the night so we're better rested for DS. I know that we'll have DS help us with the baby and he's very eager to. I know that we'll give both of them attention. But I still worry about how we're going to handle it.

Vuja_de · February 2012

Thank you ladies for responding, I asked H last night, after a particularly rough day with our LO and both of us being sick, "how are we going to handle 2?" his response "we'll teach ds how to change diapers, haha. no seriously we will be ok" I am glad he is so confident LOL!

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