Feeling so down about myself.

iris2717 · February 2012

My cousin's wedding is this Friday night and my baby shower is Saturday morning. I am gonna see out-of-state family that I havent seen in awhile and am SO not looking forward to it because I CAN'T FIND ANYTHING TO WEAR!!!!

Because I am basically paying for my own baby shower at the last minute, I didnt have much of a budget for buying a couple of dresses for myself for this big weekend. Luckily, Old Navy just had a maternity sale so I went over there on Sunday and picked out two dresses that were the least unattractive on me.

The closer I get to giving birth, the more unattractive I feel. I just feel HUGE and terrible and i'm so sensitive right now.

So I went home and asked my mom and sister to come over and see my in the dresses and tell me HONESTLY if I look terrible in them. If they said I looked bad, I would return them and keep shopping.

They saw me with them on and both said, "Oh you look GREAT! Such cute dresses!" So I felt okay about them and threw away the receipts.

Jump to today. My mom just called me and said, "You know...I was thinking about it...I dont think you should wear those dresses after all. They arent very flattering on you at all. You should keep looking."

WTH?!?!? I threw away the receipt so I cant return them and I dont have money to buy TWO new dresses before Friday! I feel awful, unattractive and desperate.

UGH!!!

blackbirdmoment · February 2012

I'm sorry you feel huge! If it's any consolation, I think most of us probably feel that way at this point. I'd be pretty irritated at my mom if she did that! I would have given her an earful about why she wasn't upfront with me when I asked for her opinion. Without seeing the dresses I can't weigh in either way, but do you have any other outfit options? You could do pants with a dressy top instead of a dress. Also, do you have any accessories that go with the dresses? I wore a dress to my second shower that wasn't very flattering alone, but looked super cute with a belt cinched between my boobs and my bump.

lifeisgood27 · February 2012

Oh my. I'm so so sorry you're feeling this way.

First to say pregnancy is a beautiful thing. Even with all the heck we've been through emotionally, physically and mentally, it's only temporary. You are a strong woman and are going to be a mommy. I hear being a mommy isn't easy, but that it's so worth all the struggles.

Next, as far as the dresses for the shower go, you may be able to return them afterall. I know that some places can return things to you for store credit. And others can look up your information and return them based on the if you used a debit or credit card to purchase the items.

If you can get store credit, don't bother with another dress. Wear a pair of comfortable maternity slacks and get yourself a nice blouse with the store credit. I hope you will at least be able to get store credit.

As far as your mom goes, you probably don't look as unflattering as she thinks. It amazes me how insensitive mothers can be as they forget how it feels.

I had a mental breakdown this morning because two days a week I have to dress up for work. I have two pair of dress pants that fit me and i couldn't find them, ANYWHERE. Needless to say I felt like a hippo and was late to work after sitting in a pile of clothes crying about my missing pants. When I found them, i not only made a vow to get rid of half of my clothes and put everything away, but i remembered that this is a temporary state. The lack of sleep, the mirror that plays tricks on me, the lack of maternity options is all worth it and when my little one is here, it won't matter anymore.

I hope your day gets better. You will figure out the dress situation and you will be beautiful at your shower. Don't worry what other people think. You are doing an amazing thing carrying a child. You're growing a human, who will be here soon.

msteph82 · February 2012

I wore jeans and a nice sweater to all of my showers. A friend said "wear something that will make you feel beautiful and comfortable - you have to look at these pictures later". So I did. And I enjoyed myself and no one commented on my jeans other than to say I looked great. (I wore nice jeans with heels)

So wear what you love and feel comfortable in. At this point, 9 months pregnant, people don't expect you to wear a tent. Or feel like Omar the Tent Maker.

addison_clark · February 2012

Way to go Mom! Thanks for making me feel like crap. Geesh, hopefully you can at least get store credit. I agree with the pp. Wear a pair of pants and a nice sweater or blouse. The day of your shower, you will be so happy being with friends, family and baby goodies that you will feel great!

ButterflyRis · February 2012

Poor thing, I'm sorry you're going through such a crappy week when you should be excited and happy. I agree with previous posters, the dresses would probably look nice bellted or with a sweater over them. If they're really that bad, I'd suggest wearing nice pants and a blouse/sweater to the wedding (you're 9 months pregnant, I dare anyone to say anything!).

For your shower, I think nice jeans and a top you feel beautiful in would be just fine. Again, it's your shower and you're 9 months pregnant so try not to give a rat's a$$ what other people think about your outfit choices. Let them try to look elegant during late pregnancy, see how they like it! That being said, pregnancy is a beautiful time and I'm sure you look gorgeous, not "huge."

ReeseFox · February 2012

That was kind of a d*ck move on your mom's part.

The last several times I've been to ON, they've asked for my email address and emailed the receipt in addition to the hard copy. Any chance you provided your emial addy?

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