Anyone not registering?

bluemommy · February 2012

So my DH and I dont believe in registering for gifts. Nothing against those that do. Is anyone else not registering as well?

Hs-sweetheart · February 2012

We are planning on registering but may I ask why you don't believe in registering for gifts? Just curious...no judgement

bluemommy · February 2012

Hs-sweetheart:
We are planning on registering but may I ask why you don't believe in registering for gifts? Just curious...no judgement

We just feel if people want to give us something that in itself is wonderful and dont want to make anyone that cant afford something or would like to buy a different brand uncomfortable. It takes any pressure off in my opinion and you get lots of nice surprises!

We didnt register for our wedding and everything we received as gifts ended up being just what we needed. Most people will ask you if there is anything you dont have/need and that works out well too. HTH

zyas · February 2012

We're not registering either.

Hs-sweetheart · February 2012

bluemommy:
Hs-sweetheart:
We are planning on registering but may I ask why you don't believe in registering for gifts? Just curious...no judgement

We just feel if people want to give us something that in itself is wonderful and dont want to make anyone that cant afford something or would like to buy a different brand uncomfortable. It takes any pressure off in my opinion and you get lots of nice surprises!

We didnt register for our wedding and everything we received as gifts ended up being just what we needed. Most people will ask you if there is anything you dont have/need and that works out well too. HTH

You have some very good points there. It seems like it would be fun to really not know what your getting and I"m sure you get stuff that you haven't seen etc since people aren't limited by a list and get to be creative. Well I hope you get lots of great surprises with baby stuff just like your wedding stuff!

RebeccaS6627 · February 2012

I think registering makes gift buying easier for friends and family....and you also get completion discounts on the items that were not purchased.

CTbride07 · February 2012

I am FTM and will also not be registering or have a shower. My dh and I do not believe in registering for gifts either, it's a personal decision that we both made together.

Vive · February 2012

We won't be doing a traditional registry because realistically its a trend that just hasn't caught on here (though wedding related ones are common).

However, I am thinking about creating a google document and sharing it with my parents and DH's parents. That way if someone wants to get something specific for us there is a list - without having to find it in a specific shop - and I think it'll help me to keep track of what I want to get when I walk into a shop rather than becoming overwhelmed and stressed.

I've made similar wishlists for the past couple of years for Christmas with friends, and for DH's birthday (which is close to Christmas and as such I have to think of ten present ideas for him - two from each set of parents, two from each sibling, two from me). It doesn't have to be tacky I guess is what I'm trying to get at.

myluckypig · February 2012

There is more to registering than just telling people what gifts you would like. When you sign up to do a registry some stores give you a baggie of goodies that includes coupons. When you get close to your due date you will receive a completion coupon (even amazon gives you 10% off). Have you thought about making one but making it unsearchable so that you can just get a discount on items you will need? That is what we are doing this time.

missusbee · February 2012

I can understand not having a shower. But if you are having a shower, I do believe that registering is a polite thing to do for your guests. Wedding gifts are one thing, but parenting is quite personal. If a guest wants to choose something that will be helpful to you, but doesn't know your preferences, it is a challenge to pick out a gift that they know will be meaningful to you. As a gift giver, I like knowing that what I give will be used.

It also means you might end up with 25 silver rattles or Precious Moments wall plaques. Which, if you're totally OK with, power to you.

christyp80 · February 2012

We're not registering, but it's our 2nd child. I understand your points though. Baby stuff is so fun to buy, and honestly as first time parents, you don't really know what you need without doing a whole bunch of research. It does kind of make sense to let other people pick things out for you without giving them a shopping list.

christieep · February 2012

We will be registering, but if my past experience at baby showers is any indication, people follow baby registries WAY less than wedding ones. The stuff you need for baby (humidifiers, bottles, thermometers, wipes, etc) is much less exciting than stuff like onesies, cute bath towels, stuffed animals, and blankets.

missusbee · February 2012

christieep:
We will be registering, but if my past experience at baby showers is any indication, people follow baby registries WAY less than wedding ones. The stuff you need for baby (humidifiers, bottles, thermometers, wipes, etc) is much less exciting than stuff like onesies, cute bath towels, stuffed animals, and blankets.

Kind of unrelated to the OP, but GAH this is such a peeve of mine. Why on earth wouldn't people want to give new parents the (rather expensive) things they might need? Instead of some useless tutu the kid will grow out of in .7 seconds after birth?! /endvent

temporalrobe · February 2012

i registered for butt paste and diapers, knowing full well i'll get tutu's and cutie pie onsies.

i dont find registering tacky or negative when someone throws a shower i like to scope it out and see what's cookin.

bluemommy · February 2012

myluckypig:
There is more to registering than just telling people what gifts you would like. When you sign up to do a registry some stores give you a baggie of goodies that includes coupons. When you get close to your due date you will receive a completion coupon (even amazon gives you 10% off). Have you thought about making one but making it unsearchable so that you can just get a discount on items you will need? That is what we are doing this time.

This might be something to think about.... thanks!

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