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"When I'm a mom I'll NEVER..."
What have you ladies already done that you swore you wouldnt?
My big one was cosleeping. NO WAY. I was scared Id roll on him, plus I wanted him to be used to sleeping on his own from day one... yet somehow he's ended up in our bed every night.
Anyone else?
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Re: "When I'm a mom I'll NEVER..."
ditto on the bedsharing
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Over the past 3 years with ds, there's too many to count! I was absolutely going to breast feed him. I didn't because it didn't work out and it was making me a bit nutso. Let my kid drink soda, eat candy, etc. Yeah, he does. In fact, suckers make him quiet down if he's being especially rotten in the car. That leads me to bribing. I'm totally not above a bribe.
With dd, I went into it wiser and now have a never say never mentality. That way, I can't break my own promises lol.
Beat my kids. Still not going to.
I don't want to co sleep either though it is enticing because I am also afraid of rolling onto her. However, I breastfeed her laying on my side at night and already three times, I have fallen asleep while feeding her because she takes an hour to be done. It really freaked me out when I woke up an hour later and realized I was sleeping with her next to me. Though it was enjoyable, I was afraid I would one day wake up and find I had suffocated her. Now, I sit up and use the boppy at night.
Make a pregnancy ticker
bedsharing (it isn't a every day thing but when I'm desparate for sleep I'll do it)
co-sleeping (I thought we'd do it for a month or two but it looks like we'll do it until he is ready which may be a long time)
formula - I was going to BF for a year yeah I barely made it a month
disposable diapers - I was going to do cloth but that didn't work out
I was also not going to have an epi or a c-section (if I could help it) and ended up with an epi and eventually a c-section...
1. Co-sleeping. I was scared, but now I love getting her from the bassinet next to my side of the bed when she starts to fuss at around 6am to wake up for the day, and snuggling her. She sleeps with me for about another hour and I love snuggling with her.
2. I swore I would only EBF. Well, long story short, it took three months to get to EBF and it was hell for both of us in the process and the only reason I kept going was because DH guilted me into it because of my original promise to myself and LO.
3. I will NOT let my daughter become a spoiled brat. This covers so many things: no picky eating, having manners, appreciating the little things in life, respecting others, etc. I won't budge from these general principles.
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While I also agree with the general principles there, some of these fall into the 'never say never' category as well. No picky eating? Good luck during toddlerhood, where preferences do arise & you learn to pick your battles. You have to start looking at what they're eating over say a week, rather than day by day because believe me, it's not as easy as it sounds. Both of my DD's have been raised with these same values & consistent discipline & both are SO different. Both have excellent manners very consistently now at ages 4 & 7. One of my DD's is extremely compassionate & wants to give everything away- the other is the "taker". We work on it constantly with her. But each kiddo has their own 'nature' that you can't necessarily snap your fingers & change with the 'nurture'!
Me too. I said NEVER. But when she is in my bed she sleeps longer, therefore I sleep longer. Sleep wins.
Layla 01.08.12
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My Gang. Halloween 2013
- Give her a pacifier
- bedshare
- be "one of those mums" who missed her baby when away from her.
Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old
Bed-sharing.
Most of my 'nevers' are more for toddler/young children than babies so we'll see what happens in the years to come.
DD 1/3/2012
BFP 5/21/2013 MC 5/24/2013
BFP 7/16/2013 EDD 3/27/2014
In retrospect I realize this was crazy but I told myself I'd never have the TV on when she was in the room. All my friends suggested I stock up on shows to watch while nursing and I thought that I would never do that because I didn't want to expose her to TV until she was 3 at least and then in very, very limited quantities.
Now my hope is to phase it out by time she's old enough to actually be intrigued by it. We'll see!
DD #1: 2012; MMC: 2014; DD #2: 2015; It's a boy! 3/31/2018
Bedshare - it's only occasionally, but I'm not longer afraid of doing it with our infant. Our toddler joins us in bed on weekend mornings for an hour or so because he's awake so early and we get to sleep a little longer while he watches cartoons.
Not EBF - this was a totally frugal thing for me, I didn't want to spend the money on formula. I has latch issues and low supply with DS, so that went out the window quickly. It's going much smoother with DD, but I don't hesitate in having DH feed her formula while I pump to give my nips a break once in a while. I also want her to get used to a bottle in case my supply tanks.
Give into terrible two tantrums - you have to pick your battles sometimes. If eating at a big chair with no bib on gets my DS to eat a full meal that night, we'll allow it because in the end, he's eating and it's a sporadic tantrum point anyhow.
Have pajama days as a SAHM - This is now my goal once a week. LOL I try to make sure we have one downtime day a week that we get to do fun projects around the house without needing to get anywhere on time.
And on the picky eating thing - I'll agree with the PPer who said you can't always control it. All you can do is find the balance between making sure they are getting nutrition somehow and constantly trying to reintroduce foods in ways they might enjoy. I've gotten lucky that DS isn't too picky so far, but I'll never say never there! As a side note: plum packs (and the like) are wonderful for picky eaters!
This.
Unfortunetly there are times where the TV/background noise from it is the only thing that soothes her. I'm also hoping to start limiting it once she starts getting old enough to start developing the "habit".
Other things I swore I would never do....
-Formula feed before she was 6 months old. I still wish I could breastfeed. Unfortunetly during the week that she spent at the NICU she developed a preference for the bottle and refused to breastfeed. Between the grief I got from my inlaws, who complained I was "hurting and confusing" my child by supplementing with breastmilk. then her taking an hour to feed from the bottle, me needing to pump for nearly an hour after that, only to have her wake up 45 mins after the whole process, it was just too much, especially since my milk supply was low.
-Co-sleep. I'm still not fond of it, but it's become the only way she'll sleep more than 20 minutes at a time at night.
-Cave in to my in-laws. I want to change this, I really do. But taking care of LO while also working 30 hours a week and trying to keep the house at least somewhat clean is exhuasting. The last thing I want to do after all this is have to battle with individuals whom I feel should respect what I want for my child, not what they "prefer" or "did/do" with their children/grandchildren/niece/nephew/etc and my husband refuses to say anything to them because he does not want to "pick sides" and he fears they won't help out if we say anything. So instead I just end up caving in and letting them do things I disagree with even though I know I should stand my ground.