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Poll: NBR: Old Photos

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So I've been cleaning out my hope chest today (crazy walk down memory lane) and have been systematically throwing out stuff that has no meaning to me anymore.  But I've run into a dilema.  I've found a bunch of photos of old boyfriends.  Would it be horrible for me to keep a few?  Not a lot but I'd kind of like to remember what all the old guys I dated looked like-- if only to remember the good I have now and laugh and say "what was  I thinking?"  But I can't decide if this would offend dh-- and he's not here to ask.  It's not like they are displayed or anything, they are in a shoe box with other old photos, in a cedar chest.  What would nesties do? 

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Re: Poll: NBR: Old Photos

  • joycojoyco

    See, I hate to be a hypocrite.  I wouldn't want Jay keeping pictures of his old girlfriends so I wouldn't keep any pics around of my exes.  Maybe scan them and keep them in a file on your computer somewhere?  That way they're still around, but not easy to just stumble across.  :) 

    Or, if you're pretty sure your husband won't mind, just put them aside for when he comes home and you can ask and then if he does mind, tell him to toss 'em for you.

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  • august8080august8080 member

    I think it's NBD. Neither DH or I would care if the other had some pics of exes in a box. In fact, I'm pretty sure both of us do!

    But, what matters most is your DH's opinion. If it bothered my DH that I had those pics, I'd toss them in a heartbeat and he'd do the same for me. 

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  • AustinAggie01AustinAggie01
    Eh, I still have mine.  They are in a box with other mementos.  DH still has old photos, although most of them are still at his parents' house.  Neither one of us care.  We didn't even know each other then and really, it's kind of fun to look through them (along with other old photos, not just photos of exes) and make fun of each other (who we dated, our hair, dated fashions, how skinny DH used to be).  You can't change the past and for the most part, I wouldn't want to.  We both had fun way back when and all that stuff eventually led us to where we are now.
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  • TayteeTaytee

    I wish I had old boyfriend pictures to speak of. Long story short, the night before my wedding to my ex, he forced me to throw them all out. I didn't know then that it was a sign of extreme jealousy to come. If a man is threatened by pictures of people who are no longer in your life, they may have trust issues. It's not healthy to ignore your past, good or bad.

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  • joycojoyco
    imageTaytee:

    I wish I had old boyfriend pictures to speak of. Long story short, the night before my wedding to my ex, he forced me to throw them all out. I didn't know then that it was a sign of extreme jealousy to come. If a man is threatened by pictures of people who are no longer in your life, they may have trust issues. It's not healthy to ignore your past, good or bad.

    I wouldn't say it's a sign of jealousy in our case.  I just don't see the point of keeping things like that around.  I really just don't.  And I'm a scrapbooker.  I have no pictures of my exes, but I'm friends with 4 or 5 of them on FB.  Ditto Jay.  He's friends with 2 of his exes, hell, *I'm* friends with 2 of his exes!   And neither of us have trust issues to speak of either. 

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  • SaraLouiseBride08SaraLouiseBride08

    Mine are in a shoebox in the closet. Not Specifically pictures of exes, but just old pictures in general and a few exes happen to be there. My husband is a very jealous person, so I don't parade them in front of him, but he knows they are there. I'm not jealous and we actually just looked at Hs old pictures recently looking for something g. It was fun!

     

    Now, I only have good memories of all these guys, so for me it was worth it to keep them. I have one ex with bad memories, and I tossed all his pics!! 

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  • bluestreetbluestreet
    Ditto SLB!
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  • TayteeTaytee

    imagejoyco:
    I wouldn't say it's a sign of jealousy in our case.  I just don't see the point of keeping things like that around.  I really just don't.  And I'm a scrapbooker.  I have no pictures of my exes

    That's fine. If you don't want or need those kinds of pictures, then there's no problem. However, I obviously kept pictures because they were important to me. And my Ex made me destroy them. Two TOTALLY different things Joyco. Not even in the samefucking ballpark.

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