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XP PGAL: Need some advice....

boymomstrongboymomstrong member
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Hello Ladies: I am in need of some advice how I should handle a sticky situation.... I am going to be 15 weeks pregnant when I start to let people know I am pregnant. In these people are some very close friends of mine from a previous job (in VA) I left a year ago when my hubby was transferred to CA. One of the girls there is pregnant and due in April, another due July, and a third was due in September, but she just miscarried. She has her D&C on Monday and will back in to work next Monday. No one has talked to her or seen her since last Friday when she found out her baby had stopped growing.... I don't know how I should proceed, I planned to tell the ladies there that I am pregnant, but I don't want to leave her out, and I don't want to tell her in the excited way I plan to tell the rest. I don't want her to feel left out, but I don't know how she will react. I know is is so hard and so painful, and I had a c/p once but I don't think it feels the same when you m/c at 9 weeks... I could be wrong, but I just don't know. Can you offer me any advice? Or help? I am sorry but I feel so lost, and me heart hurts to think about this....

Started TTC in 2006, LOTS of trying, and trying, and 7 rounds of IVF with 13 embryos, 2 perfect little boys and 5 loses....
All finished with babies, started to make diet changes, Keto, to be MORE for my kids, lost 30 pounds, still going, and 3 months in, I had a natural cycle, and then ovulated... Hubs and I are going to see what happens now... Maybe a natural pregnancy? After everything we have been through? Or just a return to normal hormones? We shall see what the future holds!

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  • lovebug33lovebug33 member
    I know it has always been easier for me to learn somebody was pg. over e-mail. So, maybe give her an e-mail heads up so that she can just not be there when you make the announcement. I always preferred that so I didn't have to pretend to be overjoyed, I could get over being sad, and could be joyous after the sadness passed.
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  • boymomstrongboymomstrong member
    Thats a great idea. Thank you!

    Started TTC in 2006, LOTS of trying, and trying, and 7 rounds of IVF with 13 embryos, 2 perfect little boys and 5 loses....
    All finished with babies, started to make diet changes, Keto, to be MORE for my kids, lost 30 pounds, still going, and 3 months in, I had a natural cycle, and then ovulated... Hubs and I are going to see what happens now... Maybe a natural pregnancy? After everything we have been through? Or just a return to normal hormones? We shall see what the future holds!

    Baby Dust To All!!!

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  • missjul61missjul61 member
    imagelovebug33:
    I know it has always been easier for me to learn somebody was pg. over e-mail. So, maybe give her an e-mail heads up so that she can just not be there when you make the announcement. I always preferred that so I didn't have to pretend to be overjoyed, I could get over being sad, and could be joyous after the sadness passed.
    Thids is good advice.
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  • byrne15byrne15 member

    imagelovebug33:
    I know it has always been easier for me to learn somebody was pg. over e-mail. So, maybe give her an e-mail heads up so that she can just not be there when you make the announcement. I always preferred that so I didn't have to pretend to be overjoyed, I could get over being sad, and could be joyous after the sadness passed.

    agreed....i preferred the email or text message, so i could cry by myself and then get over it.

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