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Wow, some people just don't get it...

allisonmarie22allisonmarie22 member
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Today on FB a friend of mine posted a picture of a digital HPT that said "Just Kidding."  I know for a fact that we have mutual friends that are struggling with IF right now and at least one that just had a miscarriage.

How can people really be that insensitive? If I had seen a post like that when I was struggling with getting pregnant I would've cried...a lot.

Also, I was talking about it at dinner with my dad and he said "Come on, Allison. You're being too touchy. You only had one round of IVF. It couldn't  have been that bad."

Seriously??

My husband informed him that we could be as touchy as we want because we were the ones that actually lived it and after all, before our IVF we did have a baby DIE.

Christ on a cracker.  Where do people get off??

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Re: Wow, some people just don't get it...

  • kelnyckelnyc member
    As if a round of IVF (or the process of even getting to that point) is a walk in the park? Sadly, MOST people don't get it.
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  • DrRxDrRx member
    IndifferentWow.  I can't believe your dad said that. It's almost as if people think that IVF takes as much effort as using a tampon or something.  Wow. Sorry you had to deal with that today.
    TTC Since July 2008.
    Me: PCOS DH: Low everything (MFI)
    Clomid with TI x 3 2010 BFN
    Clomid+IUI+Ovidrel 2010 BFN
    IVF w/ICSI #1 2011
    9/8/11 Beta #1: 2082!! 9/19/11 Beta#2 34,689!! U/S 9/22/11 HR 127! 11/8/11 HR 150! 12/6/11 HR 136! 12/14/11 HR 139! Born at 26w2d on 2/4/2012! After 83 days in the NICU, Adalyn came home on 4/26/12!
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  • AlliebooberzAlliebooberz member

    O.O 

    Yup. Some people don't get it. I don't even know what I'd do if my dad said anything like that to me.  

    dx MF & FF IF
    Off B.C. Jan '06, started charting Feb '08, 2% morphology and PCOS, no O with meds,
    IVF w/ICSI only option to conceive.
    Licensed Foster Parents 07.11
    Miracle BFP 7.20.11 1st beta 6,274! EDD 3.17.12
    Miracle Baby born March 5, 2012 . 6lbs 1oz, 19 3/4"
    Miracle BFP #2 10.8.12 - edd 6.20.13

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  • kgp_061910kgp_061910

    People who haven't been through the struggle of infertility do not think twice about doing or saying anything of that sort because they do not realize the emotional toll it takes on people who actually do struggle. I wish there was more infertility awareness out there.

    I'm sorry your dad said that to you. That's frustrating.

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  • ccamccam member
    I really think that people who haven't been through it will never understand, not that its excusable, but they just don't get how hard it is to hear/see stuff like that. 

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    Trying for #1 since May 2010   l   DX ~ Unexplained Infertility June 2011

    IUI #1&2 = BFN; IUI #3 = BFP, m/c @ 6 weeks

    November '11 ~ IVF#1 ~ ER 11/18 (29R, 17F) ~ 5dt of one beautiful blast on 11/23 = BFP!!

    Beta #1 9dp5dt = 116, P4 = 28 ~ Beta #2 13dp5dt = 700 ~ Beta #3 20dp5dt = 9500, P4 = 26

    1st u/s 12/27 - hb of 156!! EDD 8.10.12 :)   **TEAM GREEN!**

    Sweet baby boy born 8.18.12

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    Surprise BFP while waiting on FET #3 ~ beta #1 500; beta #2 1600; first u/s 4/3 - measuring 5w5d, no hb yet!; 2nd u/s 4/10 - hb 132, measuring 6w6d - EDD 11.29.14 :)    **TEAM GREEN!**

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  • TJ1979TJ1979 member
    People can be so insensitive.  If there's one good thing IF has taught me, it's that you never know the fight someone else is fighting, and I've learned to be much more gentle to others.  Sorry you had to hear that.
    TTC with PCOS since November 2009
    IUI#1 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 3-7) = BFP, m/c
    IUI#2 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 5-9) = BFN
    IUI#3 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 3-7) = BFP!
    beta #1 11/23 = 270, P4 = 75
    beta #2 11/28 = 2055
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  • DeputiesWifeDeputiesWife

    imageTJ1979:
    People can be so insensitive.  If there's one good thing IF has taught me, it's that you never know the fight someone else is fighting, and I've learned to be much more gentle to others.  Sorry you had to hear that.

    this exactly. 

    TTC #2 since June '08

    ~*DD 10.21.07*~

    dx unexplained

    IUI #1-4 BFN

    IVF#1 June 2011 BFN

    IVF#2 Dec 2011

    Beta#1 12/21 : 812 Beta#2 12/23 : 1634

    EDD 8/25

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  • lovebug33lovebug33 member

    We need to teach people how difficult it is. My boss, who supposedly didn't know about the IVF but my other boss must have told her, said to me, "Well, getting pg. mustn't have been that bad when you only had to do one round of IVF." Now, I do feel blessed that I did not have to go through the hell other ladies went through, but really lady? I gave her an earful but hopefully in an educated way!

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  • Beckla74Beckla74 member
    Eesh.
    38. DH 40. TTC since 2005.
    Earlier m/c. DX (finally) 10/10: abnormal acrosome.
    ICSI #1 3dt 11/20/11 HPT BFP 11/30 Our beautiful daughters were born July 28, 2012.

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  • mandalinn25mandalinn25 member
    Morons. 
    TTC since 2006
    Me: 36 DH: 40
    DH dx azoospermia My dx: RA & AMA
    d-IUI's--6/10, 7/13 & 8/4: all BFN
    d-IVF#1--Lupron/Menopur/Bravelle/Novarel; mini-dose protocol
    ER: 10/25--18R; 14F; ET: 10/28--3dt of 2 embies; 3 blasts frozen
    + HPT 11/4; Beta #1--14dp3dt: 441; Beta #2--21dp3dt: 9298
    One beautiful jelly bean growing! Saw h/b on 11/28 and 12/5!!!
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  • dawnmarie1279dawnmarie1279 member
    ugh, I cant stand people!

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    TTC#1 Since March 2011
    March/April 2011 - 150mg Clomid + Ovidrel + TI = BFN
    May 2011 & June 2011 - 150mg Clomid = No Response
    July 2011 - Gonal-F + Ovidrel + IUI#1(8/1/11)= BFN
    August 2011 - Gonal-F + Ovidrel + IUI#2 (8/30/11)=BFN
    September 2011 - BREAK NEEDED DUE TO ENLARGED OVARIES :(
    October 2011 - Gonal-F + Ovidrel + IUI#3 (10/23/11) = BFP!!
    Beta#1(11/7/11)=250 Beta#2(11/9/11)=487 Beta#3(11/17/11)=6500

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  • IBackBevoIBackBevo member

    I would have had to say something to both of them.  I agree that people don't get it.  Some people just don't realize they are being insensitive and when you tell them they are sympathetic.  But others (alot of others) don't want to get it.  I've learned that over and over again. Some people want to stay in their own little small-minded world. Sigh. 

    It amazes me that people are clued in enough to be sensitive to a variety of other topics, but not about infertility. 

    IF DX: DOR & Fragile X pre-mutation carrier
    2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
    BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
    Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
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