Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: butterfly
OH ... sorry to bud in ... I have a gbread i wanna make its so so so not healthy but sounds and looks good it was on the celebrity chef show .. COOLIO made it.
He called it Heavenly Ghettalian Garlic Bread
here he makes it - the video is a little weird
https://www.epicportions.com/2009/11/13/the-ghetto-gourmet/ -
The chefs on the show had their family in to test all the food and the Italian chefs mom was in love with it but said she would never make it (it had a lot of mayo)
I wanna try this so bad but Melanie is disgusted and well i dont really eat bread but when the folks on TV were eating it they were all raving but just disturbed by the ingredients
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I think I would make it just once to try it lol.
This is our all time favorite garlic bread, J's coworkers request it all the time to snack on. It's similar to focaccia but lighter and puffier and really easy to make. Bonus: The topping can be changed to suit whatever you are having for dinner, I often replace the rosemary and garlic mixture with thin sliced onions, insanely delicious.
3 cups bread or AP flour (maybe a bit more if needed for dough consistency)
1/3 cup of olive oil
1 packet active yeast (2 1/4 tsp)
1 1/2 cups lukewarm water (110 degrees)
1/4 cup chopped fresh rosemary
3-6 cloves minced garlic
1 tsp salt
2 tsp kosher or sea salt
1 tbsp sugar
Mix together the water, yeast, sugar, and half of the rosemary. Ad 1 tsp salt to the flour, then add the flour and salt to the yeast mixture, slowly, until the dough is able to form a slack ball. Knead on a well floured surface for 10 minutes. Place dough in a well oiled bowl, cover, and let sit in a warm place until it doubles in size (about an hour).
Mix together the oil, rosemary, and garlic. Punch dough down and knead a few times to make it easy to handle. Shape dough into 2 loaves and place several inches apart on a baking sheet. Score the loaves and pour the oil mixture on top of them. Sprinkle each loaf with the kosher/sea salt. Allow to rise for 30 minutes.
Preheat oven to 350. Bake for 15 minutes, until golden.
*My changes: I put each loaf in a 9 inch cake pan (do not oil) and squish it down until it reaches the sides of the pan, I then dimple it all over with my finger tips (it's ok to make holes in the dough, they will fill in) and pour half of the oil mixture over each loaf. The salt called for in the topping makes for a VERY salty bread, I usually cut the amount in half. The dough should be kind of slack, not tough or watery.
Enjoy!
Two Mommies Healing Hearts
Ok sounds so good... Hopefully M will stay in her baking mode...i am gonna send this to her...
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