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July 2011 Moms
Mason&Mama
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Does this happen anywhere else?
Mason&Mama
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Does this happen at work to anybody else? It i going to make me look like a completely cheap biatch, but I don't care. I feel like venting.
We collect money for co-workers. All. The. Time. It is ridiculous how often we are asked to donate money for stupid reasons. I have been back to work for less than a month, and I have already been asked to donate for two knee surgeries and for someone who got fired.
Let's start with the knee surgery. Why am I giving away $20 of my hard-earned money because you got too fat and old to walk around and do your job? You have been a nurse for 40+ years, and you probably make more money in one hour than I make in 4 hours. I hear that you make over $100K a year. When you are out on leave, you are getting paid short term disability or sick time. Your paycheck is still bigger than mine while you sit on your ass recovering and getting more fat and old. You do not need my $20.
Oh lady who got fired ... why are we donating money to you? You Got Fired! You were a terribe nurse. When you worked, everybody hated you. Now there is a need to collect money for you so you don't kill yourself making us feel guilty. Maybe you should have been a better person and you wouldnt have gotten fired. You do not need my $20. Get a new job and do it right this time.
Did your cousin's boyfriend's mother pass away? Let's start a collection. $20 from every nurse. We will send you a small bouquet of flowers and a card full of cash.
Did you get herpes from a man-whore while on vacation and now you can't work because you lady bits are hurting? Let's start a collection.
I am not really the complete *** that I sound like. I will gladly offer money for weddings, babies, real deaths in the family, true illnesses. I will gladly sign a card if your cat got diagnosed with diabetes. But this is getting out of control.
And let's tak about the money. It has to be $20 minimum donation. You get the complete stink-eye if you dare pull out a mere $10 for poor so-and-so's aunt who needs a face-lift because her husband left her for anotother woman. If you say that you do not have the cash, the collector wll gladly point you towards the ATM. Or, your name will go on The List of people to harrass again the next shift. You may even get a reminder phone call to bring in money for the tree to plant in honor of so-and-so's dead hampster.
Ok. I am done bitching. For now. I was just wondering ... does this happen anywhere else???
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Re: Does this happen anywhere else?
No!
BUT! I had a co-worker's daughter ask me for cig & gas money yesterday! She's 40-something y/o! been a druggie for years! I told her MH has the ATM card and he wouldn't go for that. I hate that.
I agree with you on cash gifts for weddings & babies but what you are saying sounds ridiculous. Can't you say your a single mom and babies are expensive or something? Maybe once in a while but not every time you turn around
I think this happens in hospitals more than any other place! I know what you mean but it's not near as extreme in my case. I'll probably sound even cheaper but it gets on my nerves sometimes too. I am supplemental now, but where I work is a small department with 5 RN's and a few secretaries and since we are all close we all go in on stuff all the time. We go in on flowers for deaths in the family (which I am fine with if it's immediate family, like parents/kids, etc. but we've done it for in-laws and cousins--not saying that's not important but one nurse in particular we got her flowers or other gifts like four times last year b/c all these people in her family kept dying! I think a card is nice but I don't necessarily think people need flowers or other gifts every time.) We got another nurse a gift after she quit her job there because her family member had died. We go in on gifts for Secretaries Day (although they don't do anything for us for Nurse's Day--it's like we feel obligated to do something for them)...we also have a huge United Way campaign every year at our hospital and we are basically forced to donate. If you put $0 on your donation slip they will change the amount to at least $10 so every department has 100% participation. Yup, learned this from experience. Not that I'm greedy but I would rather donate specifically to an organization where I know exactly how the money is being used.
I could go on and on, it doesn't sound as extreme as yours, but yes we are constantly asked to donate for various things.
no- never has. But totally see your point. Those things you described are things that person/people could have prevented.
Next time answer with... some collection you need lol. Idk..diapers or a vacation because you really need one!
Haha, absolutely. I remember when I was temping years ago, I was always expected to contribute to whatever office fund even though I was pretty much always making minimum wage and had no benefits - so if I was sick, I was just sick and that's all there was to it.
And to PP, the $20 minimum is implied. Nobody will actually tell you that you must give twenty bucks, but if you don't then everyone talks about what a self-centered biitch you are.
I still remember (wow, how do I still remember this?) when I got cornered to chip in because some lady's relative died. I was *literally* paying my rent in pennies that month. Like, I rolled actual pennies to deposit so that my rent check would clear that month. When the lady came back from her bereavement leave, she was talking about how the person who passed away had a bunch of money, so the donations just went to the church. *eye twitch
When my father came back to the office after emergency surgery, there were two e-mails requesting leave time donations from people who were having babies and one from a guy who was just always burning his leave on stupid stuff and now needed to go out of town to the wedding of his daughter (who he had pawned off on foster care while he was in grad school, but that's another story). Dad was set for leave because he'd been saving it for something unexpected like, I dunno, emergency hear surgery.
YES. DH's work is always doing this. I actually threw a fit and cried once when he had to give $20 for someone's baby shower. He had NEVER met her. I was livid.
And he has to give for every stupid life occasion. Babies, weddings, etc. He is the only male in the office (he works as a mental health supervisor) and they didn't do a thing when we got married or had DD.
I feel you, it is ridiculous. I can't pay my water bill because people we don't know are getting married? Yeah, no.
Also, I cannot believe you had to donate to someone who was fired! She doesn't work there anymore!
yep! i temped for an environmental organization and they were always including me on the donations. thanks guys for including me to donate my minimum wage. i guess you forgot to include me on those things...what are they called...oh yeah. benefits! i flat out refused for most of them. sorry but i'm not donating to someone who makes 6 figures. death or no death. some of them probably stood to inherit more than i made in 10 years. so no. thanks but no thanks.
another thing that got me. and this may be cheap as cheap can be, but those stupid candy bar fundraisers or the cheap a$$ body lotion fundraisers. no i'm not going to pay $2 for a knock of caramello when i could go to the vending machine and get a real one if i wanted it. no i'm not going to give your kid $20 for body lotion that smells like somebody farted in the flower bed. stop dealing this stuff out for your kid and have them do the leg work. i don't care if your kid will get a pizza party if she (you) push 1000 units of skittles. save your time and go out for pizza as a family and be done with it!
because of the fundraising crap i saw, i'll never make DS do that if he's not into it.
Ha! I agree! I hate fundraisers and DH always gets sucked into giving money to them for his coworkers kids. He'll come home and say he gave $25 to the Boy Scouts for popcorn (wayyy overpriced when I can get a box of popcorn for a few dollars) or for a softball team or some school fundraiser.
The only thing I care to pay for is Girl Scout cookies..because I just love them.
that's so funny you say that. out of all those fundraising kids, not one was a girl scout and i worked there for a couple years off and on. i would happily fork over the $$ for some thin mints right about now! yum!
The ones that really bug me are the ones in the stores where they ask if you want to donate a dollar to this fund and this cause and that fund,,, and then try and make you feel guilty by saying, "It;s only a dollar."
If I gave a dollar to everyone who asked I'd have no money left sorry!
WTF?!
We've taken up a collection a few times at work...for actual things. Like when my Coworker's husband lost his job, her newborn was in NICU for 2 mos and she was diagnosed with breast cancer all within 3 mos! THAT to me is a person who deserves my money.
Collecting money for someone who got fired??? That's just weird.
We seemed to have 2-3 things per week that we were asked to donate to! We had a secretary that wasnt the nicest to anyone and to kiss her butt in hopes she would be a little nicer she received a birthday gift, Christmas gift, end of year gift, secretaries day gift... the list goes on.
We also did the usual babies, birthdays, holidays, retirements, marriages.
It was crazy how much money I put out on things like this. If you didn't contribute you got the stink eye.