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2nd shower?
Ok, I'm a little stuck... We just found out that we are having a girl! This will be our second child, however, our little boy passed away this past July. We were thinking about having another shower, not only because it is a girl, but we want to celebrate her birth just as we did our son. What do you moms think about a second shower? Does it seem tacky? Or should we just go for it, and not accept the standard "one shower only" norm?
~Stephanie~
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Re: 2nd shower?
It depends on your social circle.
I am getting a 2nd shower because my church throws a shower for every expectant mother, regardless of how many they've had.
I would say that in my honest opinion, though, that it's not something you throw for yourself. You allow someone to throw it for you if they offer. Throwing a shower for yourself is essentially saying "please come to this party and give me gifts.", KWIM? That's just my personal opinion though. I'm sure other bumpies will respond differently to both subjects.
**On a sidenote, I am so sorry for your immense loss. I don't know what it feels like, but I do know how much I love my daughter.
If you ever feel the desire to connect with other baby loss moms, there is a board here on the bump called "Loss".
i say go for it... also sorry for your loss. But i thought that you have a shower for each gender anyway...am i wrong? This is my first baby so i dunno much about showers except my husband friends wife didn't have two showers because she had 2 boys so she didn't need extra stuff or girl stuff. I'm just saying if its a girl then have a shower... i don't see a big deal. That's just me.
Oh yeah... I wouldn't throw my own shower... agree with pp.
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I'm very sorry for you recent loss.
If you would like to celebrate your little girl, have a party after she is born.
Sorry for your loss.
As for the shower....I would definitely not have another one, doesn't matter if the baby is a different sex. I'm not trying to sound mean at all by saying this but you should still have all the baby stuff from your first child and it will look gift grabby.
If you want to celebrate the baby have a party after she is born to celebrate her birth and not make it about gifts.
Go for it....
.Yes, I would accept. You have been through a terrible loss and I am sure family and friends would like to celebrate the joy of a new daughter. You will want some new things.
I am so sorry for your loss.