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Irresponsible family vent (super long)[DD]

KitkatishbakkKitkatishbakk member
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DD. Thanks for the thoughts, ladies.

DX PCOS 2006 - Off BCPs since 1/09 - TTC #1 4 cycles clomid (50, 100, 150, 200) - FAIL, no O Multiple cycles clomid + femara - FAIL, no O 3 injectable cycles - FAIL Ovarian Drilling 6/2010. Several failed cycles follow. 11/2010 - "Hold" on IF treatment.
10/24/2011 - Surprise BFP; EDD 6/21/12! BOY!

Sweet baby boy born 6/14 9lb 2oz via csection.
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Re: Irresponsible family vent (super long)[DD]

  • L L CGL L CG
    Sorry to hear this, dear.  It's hard when you feel like you need to teach your parents how to be a grown up.  Sigh.  I have no suggestions, just empathy.
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  • txtechmamatxtechmama
    This is a very sad situation and I hate you're having to deal with this. :( thoughts and prayers your way!!!
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  • mcgeemcgee member

    I'm sorry about your dad.

    First, when you say that you've told your mom she and your nephew can live with you, PLEASE tell me that you discussed that thoroughly with you husband in advance and that he's 100% on board with the idea. Because if not, you're just asking for trouble, especially since according to your ticker you're starting a family of your own.

    If she does move in, with or without other family members, I'd only do it if everyone involved has a very clear idea going into it of how long the extra family members will stay at your house, what they'll contribute while they're there, what their responsibilities are, etc.

    Second, does your nephew have a mother somewhere? Is she in the picture at all? If not, then it's really not fair to tell your mom that she and your nephew are welcome to live with you and then expect your brother to ditch his child.

    I'd strongly encourage your mom to get her own place, a small apartment maybe that doesn't require any upkeep or anything like that. A one bedroom just for her. If she continues to support your brother, he's never going to grow up and take care of himself, and in the meantime, she's setting a HORRIBLE example for her nephew. Since he is apparently her reason for living, maybe telling her that it's in her nephew's best interest to have a responsible father who learns how to pay his own bills and support himself and his child is the best way to get through to her.

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  • MnMShawMnMShaw member

    imageL L CG:
    Sorry to hear this, dear.  It's hard when you feel like you need to teach your parents how to be a grown up.  Sigh.  I have no suggestions, just empathy.

    I was going to say something similar.  Also have no advice but wanted to say I'm sorry you have to deal with that.

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