Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: What is a spinal really like?
Here's what it was like for me.
You lean foward and hug a pillow. The anastesioligist puts a shot that feels like a small pinch in your back of medication that numbs the pain of the spinal. That was all I felt. I did not feel the spinal go in at all.
I had a c/s with a epidural then with a spinal. My spinal was awesome!! It hardly hurt going in and I felt great during the surgery.
I will be getting a spinal again with this third delivery. I hope it goes as well as it did the last time!
Mine was not bad AT ALL. They had me sit on the side of the operating table and hug the nurse. The anesthesiologist put in what felt like the equivalent of a regular shot in my back, and then a little bit of pressure as he put in the spinal. Then my body got all warm and cozy, they swung my legs (which were already getting woozy) onto the operating table, laid me down, and within a minute or two I couldn't feel anything below my boobs, except for the smallest bit of pulling and tugging during the surgery itself plus a little bit of pressure when they pulled out the baby. I just focused on my DH's face until we heard the baby cry. Easy breezy.
My recovery sucked a little bit, but the c-section itself was a very peaceful, happy and joy-filled event. Just try to relax and enjoy!
I had a good experience with mine, as well. I didn't feel a thing when they put it in, then my legs got warm/tingly for a bit, then I didn't feel them at all. That part was definitely weird.
I delivered at 2:30AM, and was up and moving around (slowly for sure, but at least up) when lunch was delivered at 11:00.
Good luck!
Proud mother of two breech babies:)
I had a spinal with DD2 (c/s because she was breech and my water broke).
DH was in the OR with me, and held my hands while I leaned over and the anesthesiologist gave me the spinal shot -- which was way quicker and less uncomfortable than the epi I had with DD1, BTW.
Quick shot, I lay down, they started covering me up and prepping the surgery area. After a few minutes, my lower body started to feel tingly and warm. It was actually quite soothing/calming, because the OR was really cold. Eventually I couldn't move my feet, everything below my chest felt very warm and heavy, and the anesthesiologist used a tiny alcohol wipe to confirm that I could feel everything above my chest, and nothing below it. I really appreciated that, because I knew that I absolutely wouldn't feel the surgery.
Then they put up the sheet and started the c/s.
I did feel nauseous on and off once I got into recovery, and for about the first 24 hours -- which was not an issue with my epi. But other than that, things went very smoothly with the spinal and I preferred not having my back all taped up like it was with the epi.
DD1, 1/5/2008 ~~~ DD2, 3/17/2010
This exactly!
For me, that's the worst part of the c/s, with the nausea that I get during the procedure as a second worst.
I have a sensitive back and the slightest tough hurts me, so yes for me it hurt a lot. But there's a nurse that I essentially hugged while they did it, and she helped me be still, so that helped.
I had the feeling of suffocating, too, as well as being really itchy. That was from my epidural when i was still going to be birthing vaginally. Then when the plan switched to emergency C section and I had to be given more drugs, it felt like someone had put a big warm blanket over my legs, and then I realized I wasn't able to move them. But the warm sensation helped me not freak out over the fact that I couldn't move. The actual placement of the epidural catheter wasn't that bad, it was a little stingy pinprick.
I was nodding as I read this. Me too!
This is my experience as well. I had a vaginal birth with epidural wih my first and the spinal was a million times better. It was not painful at all.
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