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**Hey Jellisy**
How is your SIL? I hope everyone is ok!
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Re: **Hey Jellisy**
Thank you for your concern. There is not much to report. She went to her PCP on Tuesday afternoon and they upped her medications. I am still concerned that the medications are what caused this downward spiral, so my brother is looking into setting up a meeting with a psychiatrist. My brother has worked out with his law firm that since SIL is incapacitated that he is currently the primary caregiver so they've extended his paid leave three more months. That's a huge blessing. SIL's parents are there this week and they are working out options for care. From what I understand from talking to my brother last night, SIL isn't leaving her room. We've offered to have her come here for a week in case just a change of scenery would help, but I am not hopeful she will take us up on it.
Everyone has been such a tremendous help with advice and support. I am really grateful. Thank you again.
That's wonderful about your brother's law firm extending his paid leave. I wish more employers could put family first.
I hope you are all able to get her the help she needs.
Wow, that is amazing that his firm extended his leave. How wonderful of them.
I hope the meds get settled soon and that she gets the help that she needs.
It seems to me that law firms generally have great maternity leave policies. As the secondary caregiver he had 5 weeks and if you are the primary caregiver you get 4 months. All my friends who are lawyers here in DC had equally generous leave policies.
I cannot stress enough how much I think she needs more attention (in-patient) based on what I've heard so far. The longer it takes to get more help, the harder the recovery is. The fact that she hasn't yet seen a Psychiatrist isn't great. A PCP has absolutely no idea (for the most part) what kinds of meds to put her on. Furthermore, some Psychiatrists play roulette as well. It's extremely important to take her to someone who specializes in PPD or is equipped to handle. Keep in mind, PPD is a serious chemical problem. Only once the person is stabilized can things like talk therapy help.
I hope I'm not coming off as too dramatic. I just can't stress enough how serious it is and how every single day that passes without proper treatment is not great.
I was going to page you to check in about this today. Your brother's employer is a saint. I hope she can get in with a psychiatrist because they will have the best understanding of drug cocktails and their possible interactions/side-effects. I'm glad she is getting family help as well.
I'm sure your family recognizes this, but it is so important that your nieces get a lot of extra love and attention while your SIL is stabilizing. Your nieces are really young, so they won't remember this, but since your SIL is not totally present for them right now, it's important that they get the attention and nurturing from other family. I only say this because my grandmother experienced a very similar thing when my mom was an infant, and my uncles were about 4 and 6 years old, and having their grandparents involved when my grandmother was debilitated was crucial.
HUGS
No, not too hard at all. I've been pushing as hard as I can for my SIL to see a psychiatrist who specializes in PPD. My brother was working with his EAP yesterday to identify some in his community. Her parents are not yet on board with an in-patient facility, but my brother is open to the idea. I'm with you, the longer this takes, the harder it is.
Do you know what she wants to do or is willing to do? Usually, the person experiencing it is very clear that their behavior and feelings are not rational and something is very wrong.
Useonfire, they decided to go with an all day out patient program. They're researching them now. I am so relieved. I hope this helps.