Does your spouse wear their wedding ring?

evanzmom11 · February 2012

I've only been married for almost 8 months now, and DH doesn't wear his wedding ring and it really really really bugs me. I've stopped bringing it up because it will just irritate him if I ask him where is his ring. He used to say oh I forgot to put it back on. But I've noticed he hasn't worn it in a few weeks now. When we first got married he said it was weird to have something on his hand and so it took him a while to get used to. His dad doesn't wear one either, but I think thats because his dad put alot of weight on and it won't fit anymore and never got a bigger one. I'm interested to see what everyone here says about it. I'm to the point where I think I will take my ring off and see what he says about it. To show him how I feel when he doesn't wear his. Maybe I'm overreacting but I can't help it.

Kaiterz · February 2012

Honestly... MH wears his more often than I do. If I'm home, the rings come off. He only takes his off when he showers and only rarely forgets to put it back on.

kcisthebombdotcom · February 2012

No. His dad also never wore a ring. For a while he worked a job that wasn't conducive to wearing a ring, but that has changed and he still doesn't wear one. Probably because he's so used to not wearing it. It doesn't bother me at all. He wears it on special occasions when we go out to dinner together or something and I like the way it looks on him though. Smile

eaglesfan700 · February 2012

He tries to remember, but he just forgets. I tease him about it, but it honestly doesn't bother me

What bothered me was when he lost his expensive platinum band because he took it off and forgot where he put it. I told him I didn't mind if he wanted to go without, but he insisted he wanted one. I bought him a cheap plain band because chances are he will lose it again. Some days he remembers, some days he doesn't

He never wears jewelry so it is weird for him. I honestly don't care

Tinybride08 · February 2012

DH always wears his ring. Sometimes he'll even shower or sleep with it. I like to take my rings off as soon as I get home. Some men just don't like to wear them, doesn't mean they aren't commited. My dad never wears his. According to my mom, he only wore it about a month. They've been married 26 years.

Arnegard · February 2012

Yes he does.

dsmithplus2 · February 2012

H wears his if isn't at home. When we are home, we usually take them off just because we 1) don't sleep in them and 2) don't shower in them. We are mostly used to not wearing them around the house just because we don't have to remind each other we are married when its just us Wink

Whenever we go out, no matter where, we wear them. Even if we are going to hang out by the pool at my mom's! It wouldn't bug me if H didn't wear his ring out because he forgot only because I have forgotten before and would totally understand!

kcisthebombdotcom · February 2012

Forgot to add..if this is an issue, you should talk about it with him as well as really think to yourself why it bothers you.

Why do you want him to wear a ring? If you feel like it means he's less committed to the marriage or more likely to cheat because of it, that's an issue you need to work on within yourself.

Kaiterz · February 2012

MichelleLeigh13:
Kaiterz:
Honestly... MH wears his more often than I do. If I'm home, the rings come off. He only takes his off when he showers and only rarely forgets to put it back on.

MH wears his more often than I do too. I don't put mine on in the morning until I leave the house (unless it is to go to the gym or for a walk).

Same with me. I was starting to feel guilty from the other posts. It's nice no to be alone.

evanzmom11 · February 2012

KC_13:
Forgot to add..if this is an issue, you should talk about it with him as well as really think to yourself why it bothers you.

Why do you want him to wear a ring? If you feel like it means he's less committed to the marriage or more likely to cheat because of it, that's an issue you need to work on within yourself.

I don't think he would ever cheat or that he's less committed. It's just, I bought him that ring and as long as we're married/alive I kind of expect him to wear it just as I wear the one he gave me. It wouldn't bug me as much if he wore it atleast 50% of the time.

kcisthebombdotcom · February 2012

evanzmom11:
KC_13:

Forgot to add..if this is an issue, you should talk about it with him as well as really think to yourself why it bothers you.

Why do you want him to wear a ring? If you feel like it means he's less committed to the marriage or more likely to cheat because of it, that's an issue you need to work on within yourself.

I don't think he would ever cheat or that he's less committed. It's just, I bought him that ring and as long as we're married/alive I kind of expect him to wear it just as I wear the one he gave me.

I bought DH a nice shirt for christmas. Does that mean he needs to wear it for the rest of his life just because I bought it?

I wear the ring he gave me because I enjoy wearing it. I can't imagine demanding my DH wear a ring just because I said so. This whole post sounds kinds of possessive IMO.

I really can't understand the mentality of people who need their spouse to wear a ring. It's something I can't wrap my head around.

deo · February 2012

He wears it all the time. His finger now has an indent where it is so it looks naked with out it.

My dad never wore his wedding ring but he works with heavy equipment so it was a safety issue.

Daisy77 · February 2012

No, he does not. But he has it tattooed on his ring finger. He's not a fan of rings and he's a mechanic so it's not safe for him to wear it anyway. He'll wear it for stuff if I request it but I normally don't because I know it bugs him. ETA: the feeling of the ring bugs him, not the reason for wearing it:)

sdo_082989 · February 2012

MH only wears his when we go out, vacation, pictures. He welds, uses a cutting torch and does too much stuff to get it caught and his finger ripped off. It doesn't bother me. My dad is the only one I know (around here) that wears one all the time. He never takes it off, he doesn't think about it. I wear mine all the time but I wear several rings and a watch everyday, all day. I only take them off if I am showering, bathing LO or working on vehicles or equipment. They go right back on after I am done, I feel naked without them.

DevonPow · February 2012

DH wears his all the time...he only takes it off to shower. I have mine off a lot at home (I take it off to shower, sleep, wash dishes, etc) but never leave the house without it. It would bug me if DH didn't wear his, I admit.

FormerlyKrista555 · February 2012

Yes. Wearing a ring was wierd for him at first, but he got used to it.

It's tungsten carbide, so he can wear it while working on cars, etc. I originally picked it out for him because he was a helicopter crew chief in the Army.

Now he says that he feels wierd without it. I would be slightly hurt if he didn't wear it as a choice. I don't think I'd be mad, but it would bring up some scars I have from my ex husband who cheated on me a lot. I wouldn't at all assume my current husband was cheating, but it would still drudge stuff up, ya know?

He would definitely have a problem if I didn't wear mine unless it was because my hands were swollen or something. Again, he wouldn't be mad, per say, but he would be hurt and would tell me so.

ChiTown Bridget · February 2012

My husband always wears his wedding ring and I don't think you are overreacting at all. Personally, I would find it a little odd if it were my husband who was not wearing his wedding ring after only 8 months of marriage and getting upset with me if I confronted him about it.

Cherryblossoms07 · February 2012

Yes, the only time he doesn't wear it is when he loses it because he plays with it when he is bored or nervous. It doesn't bother me other than I am afraid he is going to lose it for good one of these days.It is always in the same spot though- down his recliner somewhere. I don't remember my parents ever wearing theirs so that may be why it doesn't bother me.

AlabamaMamma224 · February 2012

When we were first married, DH rarely wore his, he said it felt odd as well. It started to bother me and I had a chat with him and now he wears it more frequently than I wear mine (I have fat preggo fingers now)...

I wouldn't do the t*t-for-tat thing though, just have an honest conversation with him about how it makes you feel.

You're newlyweds with a baby, I wouldn't go playing games to get him to understand how you feel.

gatogrrl · February 2012

He doesn't. We never got one for him. I thought we would eventually, but over time it didn't matter to either of us.

Temp174496125006552 · February 2012

Yup, all the time. The only time that he takes it off is to shower.

FWIW, I take my rings off to shower, clean, wash dishes, sleep, and occasionally if we're home and not going anywhere, I won't put them on. But the majority of the time, I wear them.

EarthMommi1 · February 2012

Yes. My DH wears his wedding band every. single. day. & so do I. We don't remove them to shower or anything.

Personally, I see our wedding bands as symbols of our love & commitment. I would be really offended if my DH did not wear his, as I wear mine. I've never had to ask my H to wear his wedding band though, he has from day one without complaints. I think it looks great on him, and he likes it. He is starting to get a weird tan line there though.. haha.

I understand some careers require no wedding bands for safety reasons- my father is a mechanic and never wore a wedding band to work.

countrygrl5533 · February 2012

He doesn't. He trims trees around the power lines for work. When he isn't doing that, he is a logger. And his main hobby is lumberjack competitions at the fairs. None of that is very safe with a ring on. He will only wear it when we go out to dinner or holidays. I'm okay with that.

I know he's married. He knows he's married. He isn't around females that would try to flirt with him other than the occasional cashier at a gas station. And even that isn't a big deal to me anyway. So really, not a big deal to us.

sawyerthedestroyer · February 2012

H always wears his. He said it felt weird at first, but he got used to it.

sassy_mommy · February 2012

We rarely wear ours....I've gotten too big since having babies and I guess we're matching. He's mentioned getting other rings....we'll see.

JenniCollins · February 2012

Yup, he'll turn around and come back home if he's forgotten it and he's only about 5 minutes out. He says he feels naked without it now.

hokies94 · February 2012

No, he doesn't but it doesn't bother me at all. He knows he's married-a ring isn't going to make a huge difference and if it did then we have other issues.

If it bothers you then it's a problem.

toadstool · February 2012

Kaiterz:
Honestly... MH wears his more often than I do. If I'm home, the rings come off. He only takes his off when he showers and only rarely forgets to put it back on.

This is us. I take mine off at home because I'm always washing my hands. DH wears his all the time.

Timshel17 · February 2012

DH wears his all the time, I've never seen him take it off. I only take mine off when making hamburgers or separating egg yolks and whites. If we took them off at night, we'd probably forget a lot. I'd be upset about it too, but I agree that you shouldn't take yours off just to show him.

BobbiJanay07 · February 2012

Sometimes, when he remembers are hasn't lost it. He lost the first band walking our dog about 6 weeks after we go married. It never bothered me that he lost it, we had a friend who it drove nuts that he lost it. So her good natured ribbing made me feel a little better, KWIM. At this point I can't gripe when I was in the hopsital having Ollie my engagement ring disappeared from our house. I can't find it anywhere. So if anyone can be upset it is him.

LynsiBHM · February 2012

My hubby hates jewlery. He has a serious issue with it. Like, if I took off a necklace and asked him to hold it, you'd think I was asking him to hold slimy bugs or something. He finds it gross. (It's weird, I know.) He has never worn a chain, a ring, a watch, etc..

When we got married, I told him he didn't have to pick out a ring. When he said he wanted one, I assumed it was just for ceremonial purposes. He wore it every day and said he was getting used to it. He only took it off to work out. After about 2 years, he lost it (it was a little big and he had been working in the yard, so we assume it's around the yard somewhere...) and he never got a new one. He said he would if I wanted him to, but a replacement didn't seem as "special." I don't mind that he doesn't wear it. (In fact, he got hit on more with his ring ON...)

I have worn my engagement ring every day since he proposed and my wedding band every day since the wedding. I do take them off to sleep and shower (and things like bake, swim, paint or use power tools) but I put them on after I shower or if I go out of the house. I adore them as pieces of jewlery and love that H chose them for me and the meaning behind them.

ToBeMrsT · February 2012

No never and it doesn't bother me at all.

ijustcantthinkrightnow · February 2012

Yup. We both very rarely take ours off. I actually doubt DH could get his off anymore...not exactly a good thing but...

MooseyMommyCO · February 2012

Yes, my husband wears it every day. He only takes it off to shower. It would definitely bother me if he didn't wear it (but I am a bit possessive and freely admit that!). I wear my wedding ring all the time, but rarely ever wear my engagement ring. It gets caught on things, and I don't want to mess it up. But I never take my wedding ring off, even for showers or sleeping. It's so light and fits well, so I don't notice it there at all.

Rink08 · February 2012

He lost his when he was away at some training with the Army. Mine are currently hanging on my necklace.

MrsAJL · February 2012

My husband almost never takes it off. He'll remove it if he's tinkering with things where it would be dangerous to wear it.

I, on the other hand (pun intended), wear my rings about 50% of the time - mostly if I'm going out.

It would not bother me in the slightest if he didn't wear his ring*. Who cares? Doesn't change the fact that we're married.

jlpev · February 2012

No he doesn't but its cause he shouldn't with the job he has. He occasional will wear it when we go out. But he never remembers!

hayleydeee · February 2012

We both wear our rings all the time. I've only taken mine off when I had to for surgery.

It would bug me if DH didn't wear his. Maybe you should suggest a tattooed ring, so that he can't "forget". ; )

kayleigh90 · February 2012

My H only wears his a few days a month. He works in law enforcement and because of the people he deals with he'd rather not let them know he's married. Never know when someone he pissed off can go on a rampage...

MAMAxB · February 2012

Kind of. MH also cannot wear his for work but he has it on a leather necklace with a cross that he wears all the time. So he has in on always - but no one sees it. I don't really care.

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