I had an experience over dinner with a friend that I found interesting and slightly unsettling.
Somehow we got to talking about marriage and children and I said that I was interested in starting the often-lengthy process of adoption in the not-too-distant future. She reacted fairly negatively to the idea as I am not married. I have in no way fully rejected the idea of getting married and date a healthy amount. But, at this point- despite being in my mid twenties, I really am significantly more interested in child raising than husband finding.
She herself is a single parent due to a messy divorce and I wonder if she was projecting a great deal of her own concerns on to me, while also mentioning a few valid ones (single income, no relief in the house, etc.). These are all important issues that I have thought through and will continue to meaningfully consider. However, I found it interesting that she felt so strongly, considering that many families wind up single-parent ones in the end.
Did anyone else on here decide to adopt solo? How did the news of your desire to adopt fall on the ears of friends and family?