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upset with the nanny(vent)...

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DH usually gets home before me so I don't see her very often in the afternoon but DH and I both call a few times during the day to check on things.

DH called me after she left to tell me that she told him that Connor wasn't eating all that much yesterday so she gave him some water.

WHAT?  I'm pretty sure that I never told you to give my babies water.  Right now all they have is breastmilk and we aren't starting solids until 6 months. DH and I are always available if she ever had a concern and we spoke to her a few times and she never mentioned he wasn't eating well.  I really don't know what she was thinking.

I talked to her about it this morning but I had a really hard time with what to say.  I didn't want her to be upset but at the same time I want her to know that she really can't be making those decisions.  Other than this she's been great and boys really seem to like her but it just makes me nervous that she would make a decision like that without checking with me first.

Am I overreacting or would you be pissed too?
 

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  • me&myguysme&myguys
    Good Morning~ I don't think that you are overreacting b/c in the end, they're YOUR babies.  But, that being said, I probably wouldn't make a huge deal out of it since this is the first time you've had a problem with her.  I probably would've just said "Hey, I appreciate you trying to give DC some extra water to help fill his tummy, but next time, please don't do anything like this with out asking me first."  It sounds like she is a good nanny since you and your children have been happy with her so far and I'm sure she really didn't mean to upset you.  If she is a good nanny, she'll take this to heart and hopefully you won't have any issues in the future!
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  • jennmarie924jennmarie924
    I would be pissed for a few reasons.  You talked to her during the day and she never told you there was an issue, she never asked if it was ok to give water ever, and she waited until the next day after your Dh got home to mention it.  I would be very upset.
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  • luvmagoldnluvmagoldn

    Every once in a while I had to have similar conversations with our au pair.  I think they get comfortable and start doing what they think it right.  I can understand it but you have to gently correct it once you are aware.

    You will probably have a few more instances like this but like any relationship, this one will require good communication and some adjustments.

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  • kyluvsajkyluvsaj

    I totally get it.  I figured out why mine have dropped a bottle.  THE NANNY ISN'T GIVING IT TO THEM!!!

    GRRR.

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  • FaeryStarGazerFaeryStarGazer member

    I kind of think you are overreacting. She should have told you that he wasn't eating well, but what good would it have done? You would have sat at working worrying about it all day. maybe even tried to leave early bc all you could focus on was your little boy not eating well. She didn't give him formula, she gave him water. Water isn't a solid, she probably thought it was better than not giving him anything all day. I would prefer the babies have at least some water to stay hydrated with than have nothing.  You are mad she mad a decision to give your baby something to drink? If he's not taking the BM for the time being, it's best he have something in his tummy.

    I don't see the big deal.

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