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Am I the only one???

Marksmommy321Marksmommy321 member
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So my son is going with his father tomorrow. This is the first time he has seen him in almost a month. I kinda dont want him to go tomorrow. I know he will be fine and (I hate to say this) give me a break for a few hours. ( I feel so horrible when I say that). Part of me is like yay hes going to spend time with him I get a few hours to myself. The the other part is like I'll have time to myself when he's older hes only going to be little once. I feel like the worse mom in the world.  I would much rather him be home with me and I'll do whatever I have to do later or I'll just take him with me .Am I the only one who feels like this?

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  • DHYGchica3DHYGchica3
    No, I feel that way too. DS is in an "extra" day at daycare (I usually work one day sometimes two but I keep him in for two days), just so I can get a break. I feel guilty but I do everything for him and care for him 24/7 otherwise. As a mom you need a break. After a day to myself, I get so excited and appreciate the time with DS. I feel renewed :]
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  • peeps61308peeps61308 member
    No, you are not the only one. I am sure that most if not all of the moms on this board feel the same way. If your child is not in any danger with their father, try to relax and enjoy your break. Hopefully, it will get easier and the guilt will subside with time. 
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  • PrincessFiona9PrincessFiona9 member
    Once I got over being nervous about DD going with her father, I started enjoying my time to myself. I am able to get things done or just relax. I have every Wednesday to myself while she's at daycare, but it's nice to have an evening or two to myself as well.
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  • Marksmommy321Marksmommy321 member
    Thank you ladies. I just feel so horrible when i kinda get excited i get a break for a few hours.
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  • kiley&mattkiley&matt
    I think that "mommy guilt" is just a part of being a parent.  The truth is, you deserve time to yourself, not only for your sanity, but so that you can recharge and ultimately, be a better mother.  Just think about the parents that have their kids in daycare all day Monday through Friday.  Think about how bad they probably feel!  But they have to do what is best for themselves and their children, and sometimes that involves spending a little time away from each other.  I am with son 24/7, and I know how you feel.  I feel tremendous guilt just for having my mom watch him for an hour so I can go grocery shopping by myself.  But it's good for kids to form relationships with other people on their own, and it's good for their independence.  So - try to enjoy your time without feeling bad.  You probably still will, but I think that's normal :)
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