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Meegs10.13.06 · February 2012

How's your niece and her partner doing? (And how are you feeling about the situ?)

nevr2amazin · February 2012

Meegs, thanks for asking.

They are doing okay, but I think my niece feels "lonely" if you will.

I have a co-worker who reminds me so much of my niece and now she and my niece have become FB friends. The other day my niece told me that sometimes she gets sad when she sees my co-workers pictures. Most of the pictures are of my co-worker with her girlfriend. My niece explained that she misses the excitement of hanging out with a group of women with one of them being her partner. Then my niece went on to say that you work with what life hands you and that she loves her partner and feels that things will be okay in the long run.

So my thoughts? I have held my tongue (C will tell you that this is not easy for me). BUT, I want my niece to be happy...to live life. I don't want her to feel "lonely." She didn't make the decision for her partner to transition, nor was she a part of it. She was basically told that this is what is going to happen. I think I said this (I can't remember), once my niece came to terms with it, my niece told him okay but that she could only stay with him if he kept his vagina. Her partner agreed. That part still has me scratching my head (let alone keeping my pronouns correct). I know some people think I am shallow, and admittedly at times I probably am...but I scratch my head nonetheless. Had my niece not said she misses being a "lesbian" then maybe I could let things go...who knows.

Meegs10.13.06 · February 2012

Thanks for answering. I appreciate your honesty. I hope your niece is able to move forward to a happier, less lonely place. This is a huge adjustment, and hopefully this is just a brief part of the journey.

Is she still going out with her girlfriends? Hanging out in groups? Does her partner not want to hang out with the girls now that he is identifying as male? I would definitely encourage them both to still go out with their friends, they need the companionship more then ever during this time.

Hopefully soon she'll be really happy and you won't have to bite your tongue anymore!

Meegs10.13.06 · February 2012

Oh, and I just wanted to say that I completely understand where you are coming from in terms of just wanting your niece to be happy. It would be very hard for me to watch someone I love go through the "loneliness" and loss of a part of her identity that your niece seems to be going through right now. It shows how much you care about her that you *are* biting your tongue.

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