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WWYD?? facebook

mmmhilarymmmhilary
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We currently have a strained relationship with MIL and FIL.  I sent over xmas gifts that included pictures from our latest professional photo session.  I know, from that session, that the photographer needed a signed model release to post the pics on HER facebook page.  Well, apparently MIL decided to commission a painting from one of the pictures we sent.  We found out about this by being directed to the artists professional FB page where pics of the painting were posted.  One is currently her profile pic for the professional page (which anyone can see and "like").  My gut is to send a message to the artist, asking her to take the pics down, but I know that it will be taken as a personal blow directed at MIL (who is sure that I hate her, but that is another story).  It really is just the principle to me, as I signed a model release allowing the photographer to post the pics... but I also think that this artist should know that she needs to be a bit more carefull if she is going to make a carreer of this.  Sigh.  WWYD?
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  • lraleylraley
    I would tell the artist that they posted a pic of your child who is under 18 and you did not sign a release, so if they would please remove the pic you would greatly appreciate it.  Or if you think that the artist may go back to your in-laws and say something rude, then you may want to confront them and say that you think it is wonderful that they had this painting made and that it turned out lovely, but you would rather the artist not display the picture as advertisement.  Then you can ask if they would like to talk to the artist or you can tell them that you wanted to make them aware that you were going to ask the artist to please not display the picture on their facebook page.  It is a difficult situation, but you just have to try and stay sincere and let them know that you don't blame them for the mistake, but the artist should have really asked.  Do you know if they asked your in-laws?  Good luck!
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  • mmmhilarymmmhilary
    I don't know if the artist asked them, because they don't talk to me and barely talk to my husband.  It is a very small town and this artist is a family friend/aquaintence to them (I have never met her).  My guess is that she assumed that it was ok because she knows them.  I have so much anxiety over this one, because every move I make is viewed as a personal attack by MIL, so I know this will be too.  I don't feel like I have much of a leg to stand on because I let the photographer post the pics, but it is the principle!!  She should have asked!  Ugh.  I don't know what to do.
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  • 3003girl3003girl member

    Honestly, I would let it go. You said that you signed the release for the original photographer. 

    Yes, she should have asked. Yes, it's the principle. But is this the battle you want to fight? I would wait for something bigger that actually matters to you, your DH and LO. If your relationship is that tense, I'm sure something will come up.  

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  • aliskaaliska member
    Maybe send a message to the artist saying that although it is ok for your LO (since you signed an agreement with the photographer), that they should get a release in the future for portraits done of children.  That way you avoid conflict with ILs and inform the artist.  With crazy ILs it is best to pick your battles.  Sorry you are dealing with this.
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