My son cannot put himself to sleep. Period. We rock/soothe/sit-with-him for 2 HOURS a night until he falls asleep. If we move, he just goes bonkers. Well we tried sleep training (Ferber-ish I guess?) this weekend. Problem is, he's still waking up a bazillion times a night! Tonight is night #3. This is what we do...read book, tuck him in, nightlights on, leave room...he follows, we put him back, say goodnite, love you, tuck him in, leave...he follows,etc. Last nite I did the whole "i'll be back in a minute"...then 2 minutes, then 3 etc...Took him a little over an hour to fall asleep, but woke up 3x last nite.
Am I doing this right? Is this going to get better? He has always been a bad sleeper, but he just went from bad to worse in a week or so.
Re: Sleep Training a Toddler: Am I doing this right?
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This. At 2.5 years old, I would absolutely let him CIO until he fell asleep, each and every time he woke in the night.
It's quite possible that it's making it worse to say "I'll be back in a minute". That method is more for 6-12 months. Saying it now, he is probably getting more worked up about it when you leave.
Can I just tell you that I'm right there with you! Last night I was in tears waiting for DD to go to sleep (takes 45 min most nights). And she refuses to let my husband stay in there with her, it has to be me. I'm thinking to myself....who is the parent here?
We have our second due in April and I would like to get DD#1 sleep under control, even though I expect some hickups once DD#2 is born.
I explained to my DH last night while in tears, that the stress from this sleeping situation is unbearable for me right now, being 29 weeks pregnant. He agrees and we've both decided to let her CIO from now on, with some explanation before bed, so she isn't in total shock when I don't sit in her room with her anymore.
I've been wanting her to be able to go to sleep on her own for OVER A YEAR NOW! And I have absolutely no one else to blame except DH and I, for not implementing this sooner.
GL to you and I hope everything works out for both of us! Keep going mama, you can get through it!!