Am I just a huge baby?

TJ1979 · February 2012

I just found out that my husband will be overseas on a business trip for eight weeks. It will be from my 19-27th weeks. I know this is still a while away, and so far everything is going fine with my pregnancy. But I am absolutely terrified about him being gone that long, and I cry every time he talks about it. Honestly, I don't know how single women and those with husbands deployed overseas do it. Bless your hearts. So am I just a huge baby?

krismott25 · February 2012

heck no your not a baby!! i'd be crying if my dh was gone for 8 weeks and i wasn't pg!!! that really sucks. is there anyway he can have someone else go?

TJ1979 · February 2012

krismott25:
heck no your not a baby!! i'd be crying if my dh was gone for 8 weeks and i wasn't pg!!! that really sucks. is there anyway he can have someone else go?

Not really. There are only two of them, and they alternate projects. So if he didn't take this one, he would have to take one closer to or after my due date. It's the lesser of the evils, but it still makes me sad and lonely.

ukcats27 · February 2012

I definitely don't think you are being a baby. I would be upset as well. I hope those 8 weeks fly by!

TJ1979 · February 2012

ukcats27:
I definitely don't think you are being a baby. I would be upset as well. I hope those 8 weeks fly by!

Me too. I just can't stop thinking about how much is going to change in those 8 weeks. We are going to grow so much while he's gone.

mdiblasi10 · February 2012

I am sorry he will be gone. You are not being a baby at all. I think your reaction is totally normal. Hopefully you can stay in close contact and that will help some. (((hugs)))

FraggleChic · February 2012

Well, if you're not used to it I can't say I blame you. Being apart sucks--no matter how long it is. For me personally, 8 weeks is short stint but I've been through multiple year-long deployments. Word of advice: stay busy and the time will fly. Schedule lunch dates, treat yourself to things you wouldn't normally splurge on, etc.

TJ1979 · February 2012

FraggleChic:
Well, if you're not used to it I can't say I blame you. Being apart sucks--no matter how long it is. For me personally, 8 weeks is short stint but I've been through multiple year-long deployments. Word of advice: stay busy and the time will fly. Schedule lunch dates, treat yourself to things you wouldn't normally splurge on, etc.

That's great advice, thanks! I keep really busy during the week, but it's the weekends that are hard. I'm upset about how many things he's going to miss though, like the a/s, Easter, his birthday. I don't know how you deal with a year long deployment! You are a stronger woman than I.

lovebug33 · February 2012

Heck no! I am sad DH is going to be gone for three days in March. So, eight weeks? I'd be a mess!

Beckla74 · February 2012

That's really tough! Totally reasonable reaction - hang in there!

byrne15 · February 2012

I would be sad too if DH was gone that long.

It's difficult to give up something you are used to having around. Just look forward to the time he returns.

naybird · February 2012

No, you are not a huge baby. I'd be sad too. Eight weeks is a long time to be gone. My husband and father were gone for 2 weeks at the beginning of my pregnancy, so I packed up the dogs and stayed at my moms the whole time! I will admit, I am a big baby!!

Hugs.

boymomstrong · February 2012

I am a military wife, and have done the deployment thing, and I can tell you I am always a mess when he leaves... Your not a baby, your going to miss him...

We found out that my hubby may not even be here for this birth of our long awaited baby, and I am already upset by it! Its not even official yet, but here I am a hormonal mess already! )

Good Luck, and 8 weeks will fly by after the first 2. You wil adjust and it will go by fast! Honest! )

mandalinn25 · February 2012

Oh you are not a baby at all. I hope the time flies for you. Maybe stock up on girly movies, got out with friends, take a class, etc. hugs.

allisonmarie22 · February 2012

I can understand you being upset, but you really should make an effort to stop crying about it. I'm sure he feels bad enough about it as it is, and honestly you being so upset about it probably makes him feel worse. It doesn't sound like it's something he can help. Sorry if that sounds mean...I don't mean for it to.

AshleyC0117 · February 2012

You're not over reacting, I'd be so upset too! I'm sorry you're dealing with this.

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