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ArcticFox
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5 year old Dr visit
ArcticFox
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DD has her 5 year old visit coming up. She's petrified of Drs. I assume she's going to need some vaccines?
That being said, should I have DH take her? Last time she was sick, I had DH take her because I knew there was no way I could hold her still for the Dr, and he said sure enough he basically had to hold her down. I don't think I can handle my 2 year old and a screaming 5 year old (especially since the 2yo cries when big sister starts).
Additionally, DH is not home much, is there anything you can think of the Dr would ask about that DH might not know? (For example, he rarely feeds the kids, so he probably wouldn't know what DD eats on a daily basis. Not that it would be a question, but that's where I'm trying to figure out if there are any details I need to fill him in on).
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Re: 5 year old Dr visit
If you have DH take her you can be a participant in the visit via speaker phone/conference call.
As for having DH take her? I can't answer that. Mine are 17 months apart and I had no choice but to take them both. If it's not an inconvenience then I'd ask DH to help out but in my situation I'd want to be the one at the office with the child having the appointment and ask DH to stay at home to watch the other one.
Take heart... these are the last shots they get for quite a while.
Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
DD completed her vaccines at her last visit--4 years old, which was a few months ago. She received all of her shots at the appointed time so her pediatrician said we were done until 11.
With regards bringing her: in our case, I don't handle vaccines well. So, since DD was 4 months old, I've always had DH come with us. Granted, we only have one child but if we had two, I'd make him go in the exam room with her and I'd stay out in the lobby with the other. When DD sees me freaking out, she freaks out; so I'm always putting on a brave face and staying calm for her. If you can't handle both kids and deal with the tears and fears of the visit, it sounds like it would be easier for one of you to go and one of you to stay home with the other. GL!
Which one of you is better at calming your DD? I did a joint appointment for both kids back in May and it was an absolute disaster. I've vowed to never have DD with me again when it's DS's well check day. DH will either come home early and watch DD or I will find a friend to do it.
Despite being weaker than DH, I'm better at calming DS when he hits fight or flight mode, so I'm the one that does it.
Do you normally have a lot of questions at well visits? I can't imagine that there would be a ton for a 5 year old, if she's hitting her milestones.
Some pedi's do the school year shots at 4 others at 5. If she had them at 4, she is done for a while. Both of mine had their at 4 and are done til the are 11.
For us, they were not as bad as the anxiety leading up to them (for me). I did mention to DD/DS1 that they would be going to the doctor and would likely get shots.
Both times, I took both kids. I always do their annual appts together. Luckily each time, only one kid got shots (well othesr got flu shots- we always do this Columbus Day). I even bring my youngest. I mentioned it to MH but he wasn't able to come either time. I think I am better at comforting but he does good too. It would have been nice to have him come along.
DS1 is really good at taking shots. Not one tear! No issues. DD was old enough behave while I tended to DS1. DS2 just ran around the room...
DD was traumatized for a while. They did a finger prick shortly after the set of shots and that was horrible. She has gotten better.
I know my H would know none of the Q they'd ask. I would both go.