Becoming a SAHM

Re: Becoming a SAHM

• tiff012982 member

  February 2012

  I go back to work in April and I although I love love love being a SAHM right now, I love teaching high school and love working.  I know I will miss being with her too, but I have summers off

  On a side note, DH was so upset yesterday that he didn't get to see DD on the swings for the first time and he had to work late and missed his time with her at night.  I started thinking how hard it's going to be in April and wished that I could work part time, but I can't.  Is that a possibility for you?  I really think it would be a happy medium for us.  It seems that you like your job.
  

  

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• catahoulatte member

  February 2012

  Can you work part time? Maybe that would give you a taste of more time with your LO.

  I feel you on not getting anything done ever. We are both full time and DH is in school so he is studying for 3+ hours a night. It sucks!

                                     
      
       
  
  
  

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• JaysonandKristin member

  February 2012

  I quit to become a SAHM very unexpectedly after DS1 was born.  It was a major financial struggle for awhile.  But, with all things, you learn through mistakes, and you make changes.  We are very comfortable now.  

  I love this SAHM gig WAY more than any other job I've ever had.  I've never had a job that I loved, so it makes sense that staying home with the boys would be something that I love.

  Think about your priorities...  If you have the flexibility to sell a car, just sell it.  See how long you can live without a second car.  Bank your extra cash.  Really, truly define a need for yourselves.  We got rid of our second car.  DH commutes an hour both ways to work M-F.  If I go anywhere, I walk with the kids.  And, we do not live "close" to anything but a couple parks.  The library is a 2 mile walk, the grocery store is 1.25 miles.  I live in a community with a ton of SAHMs, so we all get together on playdates.  Those are just as important for the kids as they are for moms.

  Good luck making a decision!!   

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• blabbe member

  February 2012

  Yes I was acutally offered 20 hrs a week for a bookeeping job. Its something I could do while at home! Which is awesome but it wouldn't cover my whole salary. And then on the other hand we pay tons in daycare so it may just even out. My husband also works for a school so he has Summers off and could bring in extra income during that time. I think we can make it work. I just dont know why Im so scared to quit? I find myself getting so nervous thinking about telling my boss! I think I have a commitment issue..

  

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• Oually

  February 2012

  I never in a million years would've thought I'd be a SAHM. But I didn't have a job that I loved, and circumstances changed so that when DS was 2 months old we found out we were moving and that I could stay home. I absolutely love it! I know it's not for some people, but I am shocked at how much it is for me. So if you're financially able, try it! If you aren't in love with it, you can go back to work. But give yourself the chance. It's the best "job" I could imagine!

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• NR10202010

  February 2012

  I "retired" (officially, it was called retirement...I know how silly that sounds) from my job about a month before DD was born.  We started talking about it when I first got pregnant, but I couldn't do it.  I was TERRIFIED!  I made more than DH, and couldn't see us making it work on just his salary.  We started budgeting out the wazoo, and I saw that we could make it work...AND not have to put our LO in daycare and let someone else have all the fun with her!

  The thing that really helped us most was using the envelope budget system to see what we had and where it was going.  We have Android phones, and there's an app called EEBA, it's a lifesaver!  It syncs purchases and budget info between our phones, so we both know what's where.

  In the end, it would be awesome to have more money.  But, in no way would I go back to work and miss out on being here with her.  I realize it's not the right decision for everyone, but it is for us.   

  
  
  

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• tuluwen

  February 2012

  I quit my job on Friday and today is my second day of being a SAHM. I can't give you any long term results, of course, but I can tell you that both baby and I are MUCH less stressed out and much happier! As a result, DH is also much happier. I have plans to go out with the girls from my office once a week, so that I don't feel disconnected with them. I think it's a great opportunity to do all the things most moms "wish they had time to do!" I say try it, like OP said, and see how it fits!

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• tandb2010 member

  February 2012

  https://www.gailvazoxlade.com/resources/interactive_budget_worksheet.html

  This was and is an awesome help to DH and I.  We used it to see if and when I would have to go back to work.  We use is now that we are on a limited budget and it has helped tons.  It uses jars but it is the envelope method if you have heard of that. 

  I am Canadian so I get a year with 55% of my last years wages but it's still a huge hit $$ wise.  I love being home with DD and I love the fact that I get to see her grow and change but by using this budget we have figured out what DH and I have to do to give our family what we need and deserve.

  I hope this helps.  It's a start on seeing if you can even afford to be a SAHM.

  GL  FWIW

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