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A question about money and divorce

wheelsonthebuswheelsonthebus member
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I thought this was the best place to post this question. I lurk on this board and I admire the strength I see in each post. Without going into all of the details, my H and I are always up and down. I've basically decided to stay with him because I'm pregnant and can't afford to leave him. Sometimes things get better, but in the last few months, I'm seeing that I'm trying to change someone that is just never going to change and I can either come to terms with that or leave my H. Anyway, I'm wondering how you leave someone if there isn't enough money to do it. If I were to ever leave my husband, I have no family to go stay with. We can't afford to pay the mortgage and the rent on another place. I run my own business from home. I feel like I have literally have no options. How does this work?

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Re: A question about money and divorce

  • DHYGchica3DHYGchica3

    Well, if you have a trust worthy friend willing to take you in temporarily that would be another option. There are government programs to help you get housing, you could file for child support as soon as the baby comes, there are programs like WIC that will help to feed you while you are pregnant, and then you for 6 mos post pardum and your child until 5 yrs.

    Pretty much when there is a will there is a way. I barely have a cent to my name, I work 3 hours a week. I am fortunate that my parents took me back in. But I help pay for DS's food with WIC, and I struggle to pay bills. But what matters is I'm out of my shitty situation and my DS has a chance to grow up and not have to live the way we used to (read: on egg shells with my temperamental stbxh).

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  • FyreFlyeRushFyreFlyeRush member

    I went home. I don't make enough make enough money to pay for child care, high school and rent. And, SD is showing little or no intention of helping out. So, my daughter and I moved in with my parents until I can get to court and have child support coming in. (tip: always request wage garnishment!)

    I'm also looking for another job after Alien comes. I had to take this one when I learned I was pregnant because I simply couldn't perform the physical reqs of the better paying one I had. I miss that pay check. 

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  • wheelsonthebuswheelsonthebus member
    I'm at that point right now where I keep asking myself how much more I can take of running a business, running a household, and dealing with an H that acts like a teenager. I am seeing a therapist right now and she keeps saying that my situation is miserable, but that I'm stuck unless I really want to make a big jump. My family won't take me back in. I was curious to see how others have done it. I'm sure something will give eventually and I'll just leap.

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  • FyreFlyeRushFyreFlyeRush member

    imagewheelsonthebus:
    I'm at that point right now where I keep asking myself how much more I can take of running a business, running a household, and dealing with an H that acts like a teenager. I am seeing a therapist right now and she keeps saying that my situation is miserable, but that I'm stuck unless I really want to make a big jump. My family won't take me back in. I was curious to see how others have done it. I'm sure something will give eventually and I'll just leap.

    Thats horrible. I can't imagine not doing everything I could for DD or Alien when they need me. Parenting. Doesn't stop at 18. Do you have other family? Friends? Anyone you can stay with temporarily?  A one bedroom apt? 

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