November 2011 Moms

so there's this bridal shower...

i got invited to a bridal shower. it's for DH's best friend's fiance. she's a nice girl but i don't know her very well. she's very...umm...pure. by pure i mean boring. by boring i mean i want to stab my eyes out when i have to talk to her.

anyway, i'm opposed to bridal showers for several reasons:

1. they're boring.

2. i don't want to have to get you another wedding gift, aside from the traditional gift for the event and in addition to having to pay for you to drink and get mauled by strippers at your bachelorette party.

3. they're boring (worth mentioning twice)

my question:

do i HAVE to get something off the registry for this??? the invite says "______ is registered at crate and barrel and macys". i check out the registries and good lord is everything they want expensive. i thought bridal showers were about getting the bride some kinky lingerie and lube. not true? i DO plan on getting her something, i just didn't want it to cost $200. any suggestions on what else i could give?

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Re: so there's this bridal shower...

  • Do you have to go? In my ripe old age, I am learning that I don't have to go to everything I am invited to. Can you just throw a gift card in an envelope, send it along with your regrets and call it a day?
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  • imageBeccaMarie:
    Do you have to go? In my ripe old age, I am learning that I don't have to go to everything I am invited to. Can you just throw a gift card in an envelope, send it along with your regrets and call it a day?

    oh god no i'm not going! i forgot to mention that. they said on the invite "adults only" and that irked me. the only time i really have to spend with DS is on the weekends. i just dont know what an appropriate gift would be thats not on the registry...

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  • imageBeccaMarie:
    Do you have to go? In my ripe old age, I am learning that I don't have to go to everything I am invited to. Can you just throw a gift card in an envelope, send it along with your regrets and call it a day?

    I think registries themselves are tacky, and a bridal party registry?  Unheard of! I'm irritated just thinking about it.

     I agree with BeccaMarie.  The advantages of having a newborn...you have a built in excuse to get out of crap you don't want to do. 

     

  • I'd say a card and gift card popped in the mail would be acceptable too.

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  • How about a gift card to a lingerie store or somewher else they sell naughty things?  That way you might make her day less boring (and she is getting married so I'm guessing 'pure' is going out the window?) if you are willing to be the person they all gossip about having cucumber sandwiches and weak tea...
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  • Send her some handcuffs but send the keys to her fianc?. Maybe add in a whip, tell her that you found it on pinterest - suggest she follow your board called Kinky Fun. ;)
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  • My go-to shower gufts are themed and inexpensive:

    - Sylicone Pancake flipper, box of pancake mix (usually can find something cute at TJMaxx), and syrup

    -  Kitchen utensils - spatula, tongs, whatever I can find cheap) wrapped up in a mit with a towel

    Hope it helps!! 

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    Send her some handcuffs but send the keys to her fianc?. Maybe add in a whip, tell her that you found it on pinterest - suggest she follow your board called Kinky Fun. ;)

    LOL--but go so you can see her expression when you give this gift to her in person. 

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  • Nah, I wouldn't go either.  I remember when DH and I got married, we received a bunch of kitchen stuff I couldn't wait to use.  However, when we actually got back from our honeymoon, I didn't want to cook at all.  Some of our guests had gotten us restaurant gift cards, and it was awesome to have those to use because we'd spent all our money on the honeymoon.  I know some people think gift cards are impersonal, but we really appreciated them!
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  • I don't think bridal showers = lingerie... that's more reserved for the bachelorette party.  Her grandma will be at the shower, so stuff from the registry is more appropriate. 

    Well, first of all, you don't have to go.  Send a gift and decline nicely.  Or you could always "go rogue" as my girlfriend says and buy something (gasp) not on the registry.  I remember seeing someone get a bunch of holiday kitchen towels at a shower and thought it was a really cute idea.  You could also get a set of nice wine or beer glasses. 

    I agree with you about all the expensive stuff on a registry.  It's so annoying when the only item in my price range is a wooden spatula... LOL!

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