NBR: How often do you and Hubs do the dirty?

pinkpigeon · February 2012

How many times a week and why?

For a while there I had zero libido. It's gotten better but I still don't have the energy for 7x a week. Dh has endless energy when it comes to sex but I don't really think its realistic for him to expect it 7 days a week (5 days seems reasonable). I hate that like this but with such busy lives I don't think we'll get all that fire and passion back until DD is a little older.

thatgirl84 · February 2012

Most married couples W/O children don't even have sex 5X a week. I think the average is more like two or three.

Hmmm...our average lately is like one Sad B/c he goes to bed around the same time as LO. If she naps a long time, which is a rarity, we will DTD. We have made plans to hire a babysitter, so we can have date nights. Connecting is so important. It doesn't necessarily mean DTD, but make time for that, too.

SarahP15 · February 2012

DH is taken care of one way or another at least 2-3x/week, dependent on m/s.

evanzmom11 · February 2012

Usually once or twice a week. Occasionally more than that but not usually

swimiz500 · February 2012

Wow, my DH would be really jealous of all of yours! We haven't since DD was conceived. He is a very patient man. I have zero libido too, and it hasn't gotten any better.

pinkpigeon · February 2012

swimiz500:
Wow, my DH would be really jealous of all of yours! We haven't since DD was conceived. He is a very patient man. I have zero libido too, and it hasn't gotten any better.

Thanks ladies! Giving me some good ammo. I thought 7 days was asking a lot.

bonitatinabina143 · February 2012

We dtd about once a week now. I would like to more but we share a room with lo until we move this september.

nbbride06 · February 2012

swimiz500:
Wow, my DH would be really jealous of all of yours! We haven't since DD was conceived. He is a very patient man. I have zero libido too, and it hasn't gotten any better.

It hasn't been that long for us but my DH would certainly be jealous. And we were never at 5x per week pre-pregnancy either!

lovemyminions · February 2012

My DH want's it 7x a week, but I think that's a little excessive so it's usually around 5x's a week (more or less depending on the mood...lol) I have found that DH is in a much better mood the days following DTD, and if there is a night he really want's it, and I'm not really feelin it, I get a nice long back rub out of the deal. Win win.

nfrtny · February 2012

LOL. You think 5 days a week is reasonable? I WANT YOUR SCHEDULE. lol.

Pre baby we did it all the time. Multiple times a day. Post baby we do it maybe twice a week.

Cookiecake7 · February 2012

swimiz500:
Wow, my DH would be really jealous of all of yours! We haven't since DD was conceived. He is a very patient man. I have zero libido too, and it hasn't gotten any better.

We haven't since DD was conceived either. It's a mixture of my post-partum libido and some issues he is going through with feeling uncomfortable in his skin after weight gain. I do appreciate not constantly being pressured to do it when I'm exhausted in the evening.

jmo866 · February 2012

OMG we haven't done 7X or even 5X a week in probably 7 years! LOL... before DS it was probably once a week, now that is not a guarantee anymore. Your hubbies are lucky men!! Wink

yougrindmygears · February 2012

About once a week. Sometimes more, sometimes less. I think the longest we have ever gone in the 6 years have been together is 3 weeks. I would like to try and have sex more often though.

swimiz500 · February 2012

MauraWC:
swimiz500:
Wow, my DH would be really jealous of all of yours! We haven't since DD was conceived. He is a very patient man. I have zero libido too, and it hasn't gotten any better.
We haven't since DD was conceived either. It's a mixture of my post-partum libido and some issues he is going through with feeling uncomfortable in his skin after weight gain. I do appreciate not constantly being pressured to do it when I'm exhausted in the evening.

Glad to hear I am not the only one Unfortunately, DH does actually want to (though he did not want to during pregnancy, so that was a relief!), and I feel really bad. But he says he does not want me to do it just to appease him if I am not comfortable, which is really good of him.

google123 · February 2012

swimiz500:
MauraWC:
swimiz500:
Wow, my DH would be really jealous of all of yours! We haven't since DD was conceived. He is a very patient man. I have zero libido too, and it hasn't gotten any better.
We haven't since DD was conceived either. It's a mixture of my post-partum libido and some issues he is going through with feeling uncomfortable in his skin after weight gain. I do appreciate not constantly being pressured to do it when I'm exhausted in the evening.
Glad to hear I am not the only one Unfortunately, DH does actually want to (though he did not want to during pregnancy, so that was a relief!), and I feel really bad. But he says he does not want me to do it just to appease him if I am not comfortable, which is really good of him.

I'm sorry, that is very unhealthy.

nicsigni · February 2012

google123:
I'm sorry, that is very unhealthy.

What is?

firewiferut · February 2012

nicsigni:
google123:

I'm sorry, that is very unhealthy.

What is?

I'm lurking as I will be on this board soon but I'm wondering the same thing...what's unhealthy? Everyone's sex lives are different and just because you're not having sex doesn't mean you're not being intimate.

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