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June 2011 Moms
Turtle143
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DH wards off strangers
Turtle143
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Yesterday we were at Trader Joe's and DH was holding Liv in his arms. Liv smiles at everyone these days and is quite the charmer when we're in public. So a little old lady comes up to DH and Liv while I watch from afar. She seemed loudly excited baby talking to Liv. I flashed DH a look that says "umm......???" and I turned away. Seconds later I hear the old lady stomping away and saying "well that's just fine!" and looking a little upset maybe? Apparently, DH told her to let go of Liv's feet (which I didn't know the lady was holding) and that he'd prefer strangers didn't touch her.
I felt bad for the old lady! I'm sure she didn't mean any harm but DH mentioned this being the flu season and you never know what kinds of viruses/germs people have. I honestly didn't know whether to completely applaud DH but I praised him for speaking up for Liv anyway. Part of me just feels bad that we have to tell strangers to stay away.
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Re: DH wards off strangers
I know! Just don't make us be the bad person here and keep yours hands off my baby, geez!!
I absolutly hate when people come up and think they can touch my kids. Especially when its another parent telling their snot nosed brat to go say hi to the baby at the doctors office.
I don't send my kids over to breath their germs on anyone's baby so keep your brats away from my sweet little baby.
DS1 was a premie and I never let anyone touch him or come to close to him...I'm not as insane a germaphobe this time but I still think its rude to come touch someone else's kid. Yes I know DS2 has adorbale chubby cheeks and thighs but keep your hands to yourself!
I will say though that I, personally, have never had anyone I didn't know come up and touch Martin. I am honestly not sure what I would do and say if they did because it's never come up. I'm pretty good at reading people though and can usually tell if they're going to do something like touch him so I head them off at the pass by either gripping him tighter or moving on more quickly.
I think I'm in the minority but I honestly don't care about strangers touching her. People love babies and germs exist whether they physically touch them or not. I'll pretty much let anyone hold her too (the only exception is a lady at my mom's assisted living who thinks Caroline is her granddaughter and always tries to run off with her). I think that's largely contributed to her lack of stranger danger freakouts.
She's only had one tiny cold (and she caught it from me) so I don't think my method is that crazy or dangerous. She hates her feet being touched though so if someone touches her feet she kicks them ;-) Honestly the joy so many people get from a 10 second interaction with a baby just warms my heart.
Go Mr Turtle!
While H is great with DD he is maybe a little lax with the whole germ thing....I am mainly referring to our nieces and nephew (who DD had gotten sick from numerous times). I got the side eye like I was being a meanie from H one time when I made the comment for them not to touch all over DD's toys. Then when they touch her hands I have to tell them to stop. It doesn't even phase H. Well maybe it's starting to....he did tell me the other day to keep her away from those dang kids when she started to get a little temp after being around them. He's learning
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I do want to add that I am really only like that with other kids because kids are always sick.
It is a hispanic thing where mainly older hispanic people think of it as rude (and bad luck) to look at a baby and not acknowledge/touch them. It's said to give them "Ojo" or evil eye (bad luck). Many kind women have lightly brushed DD's arm while telling me how pretty she is. I politely tell them thank you. This is a very sincere thing and they really mean the best by doing this...as to not give my DD bad luck. It is totally a cultural thing. It actually just happened this morning by an older lady as we were on our way out of breakfast. It is actually pretty sweet I think. I tell H about it happening all the time and since he is Mexican he is well aware of this superstition. He saw this morning that I wasn't lying about it happening to us often
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DH and I are both in the healthcare. I definitely think our jobs make us all the more paranoid about viruses/germs sometimes. But I'm with you on how people just love babies. I love babies too but I wouldn't get in their faces or touch them.
lol I'll have to tell him he is called Mr Turtle on here.
I hear you on other kids and germs! Liv's BFF (hehe) who is the daughter of our best couple friends is just 2 month older than her and almost always sick! She is not even in day care, her mom is SAHM too. They tell us she has so many little cousins who love to play with her and I suspect they are just passing on germs to each other. Whenever we have a playdate, she would put Liv's toys in her mouth that Liv also likes to chew on and I haven't gotten the chance to disinfect. I very carefully joke that I'm sure Selena doesn't want Liv's germs and we don't want hers either. I'm pretty sure my gf thinks I'm a little protective well...so be it.
I was surprised he did too! He's a very approachable and down to earth guy otherwise. I am one to say that sort of thing is a no no but when it came down to it happening before my eyes, all I did was make a face and turn away. Oops.