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Pain with sex at 6 weeks PP

jokesonyoujokesonyou
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Hi ladies! So, I finally got the go-ahead from my Dr. for sex and our first attempt was a giant FAIL! We weren't able to finish because the baby woke and started crying, but that was not the problem since it wasn't going well before that. It was really painful for me. I swear my husband grew in the 6 weeks since last had sex. It just felt like it no longer fit and I was way tighter. Sorry if this is all TMI, I just wasn't really expecting that since I didn't deliver vaginally. I did have 19 hours of labor and fully dilated and pushed before my c/s, if that means anything. I was just wondering if anyone else had the same experience and had tips or words of encouragement or anything, really. Thanks!
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Re: Pain with sex at 6 weeks PP

  • pitterpatter129pitterpatter129 member

    I still have pain at 1 YEAR PP!  If you are breastfeeding, it might be worse due to hormones causing vaginal dryness.  It's nature's birth control. :)  Just be sure to use LOTS of lube next time!  I've heard some people say the oil kind works better than water-based, but I don't think you can use it with condoms (if you are using condoms.) It does get better, but don't force it or expect miracles right away.  I've heard practice makes it better. LOL  We just haven't had a lot of time to practice with the baby!

     

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  • jb2rnjb2rn member

    oh yeah. i wasnt expecting it either. i am bf and its got to be the hormones. keep trying. we have only done it maybe 3 or 4 times but its getting better

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  • pepomntpatpepomntpat member
    Yes. I was also very surprised. I never made it past 4 cm and certainly never pushed.  It honestly hurt until about 6  months PP and did not become fun until 8 months or so. I know part of it is BFing.  I am still nursing, but at this point I would say we are about normal again. 
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  • skioskio member

    Are you BFing?

    It has nothing to do with dilating or pushing. It's hormones - our bodies are physiologically set to reject sex so soon after we've had a child to protect us from getting knocked up again. All the crazy hormones make everything tighter and drier. BFing makes it ten times worse. Then again, some people have no issues...but from what I've read 'round here, most people have a seriosuly hard time with sex, c/s or not.

    For me, lube made it worse, and sex was uncomfortable for about 8 months. We didn't successfully 'finish' until about 8w pp, and then only did it once every two weeks or so because it sucked so bad and I had no interest in putting myself through it. I actually enjoyed it for the first time around 9m pp. Thankfully, I have a very kind and understanding husband who took his time and read my signals. Make sure your husband does the same and take it slowwww. It does get better and it might get better much sooner for you, everyone's different!

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  • jokesonyoujokesonyou
    Thanks for the replies. I feel much better. Yes, I'm ebf, so that makes complete sense. Just relieved to know it's normal and will get better with time. My husband was so reassuring and comforting, so I'm sure that will help as we try to work through it together. I was just bummed because seeing him as an awesome dad these last 6 weeks had me so looking forward to jumping his bones, but we'll get there I'm sure! Thanks again.
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    That's interesting that you think it has nothing to do with dilating.  With my first LO I had a vaginal birth and had repair surgery.  18 months later sex was still painful and I had been told it always would be because of scar tissue.

    So 6 weeks pp we had sex and zero pain.  As in, not even the pain I had before.  And I'm EBFing with a major oversupply, no period, and lots of hormonal side effects such as BFing hives and nausea when BFing.  I assumed it was because it was a planned csection, so I never dilated.  That doesn't explain why all previous pain is gone, but I'm not complaining!  We used way too much lube.

    That said, I noticed that in one position it almost seemed like chaffing, even though there was tons of lube and no other position felt that way, so I do see what everyone means.  Hopefully it gets better!  Maybe try other positions?

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  • earthmama2011earthmama2011 member
    imageskio:

    Are you BFing?

    It has nothing to do with dilating or pushing. It's hormones - our bodies are physiologically set to reject sex so soon after we've had a child to protect us from getting knocked up again. All the crazy hormones make everything tighter and drier. BFing makes it ten times worse. Then again, some people have no issues...but from what I've read 'round here, most people have a seriosuly hard time with sex, c/s or not.

    For me, lube made it worse, and sex was uncomfortable for about 8 months. We didn't successfully 'finish' until about 8w pp, and then only did it once every two weeks or so because it sucked so bad and I had no interest in putting myself through it. I actually enjoyed it for the first time around 9m pp. Thankfully, I have a very kind and understanding husband who took his time and read my signals. Make sure your husband does the same and take it slowwww. It does get better and it might get better much sooner for you, everyone's different!

     

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