lurker/newbie
christineandaaron
member
Hi there!
I have been lurking on this board for a few weeks now. I am sure my questions have been asked before but I haven't been able to locate what I am looking for in the older posts so hope someone can help me out.
A little background:
My husband and I have been TTC since June 2010. I have had one miscarriage and have been unable to get pregnant again even with fertililty treatments. The next step is IVF. However, both my husband and I are also interested in pursuing adoption, but don't know really where to begin.
So anyways, I guess what I am asking is where do we even begin to look for adoption agencies and what is the best way to get more information? I did find the Catholic Charities website and emailed them regarding their informational meetings that they had posted. Is this a good place to start? Any advice is appreciated. All of your stories are so touching to me and many have made me feel that adoption is the right choice for my husband and I. Thanks again!
Re: lurker/newbie
Hi and welcome.
Ditto cogbot. The FAQs will give you some resources to decide which type of adoption is right for you, and some of the options you have within each type. If you're pursuing domestic infant adoption, you may not even use an agency. Some people use adoption lawyers, some use facilitators or consultants, etc. Check out your options and see what speaks to you.
GL and post often.
We started our research by reading a lot of blogs (more me than DH) and by attending a few informational meetings by a local agency. We also had coffee with a few friends who adopted and just listened to their stories.
Once we decided to adopt I ordered information packets from basically every adoption agency I could think of. I compared them all, we weighed all the pros and cons, and discerned our calling, what kind of adoption was right for our family.
When we started researching I was convinced that we were supposed to pursue a girl from South Korea, China, or India. We were not candidates for China or India and SK is closing its doors. Then we seriously considered domestic adoption of an African American or bi-racial baby (in our state babies with that heritage are harder to place). In the end we are pursuing a male toddler from Russia! I just share this with you to say it is okay if you have no idea where you are going for a while. Just keep learning and eventually you will find your way to your child!
Welcome to the board!
TTC September 2010 thru October 2011
SA February 2011: Normal
RE App. October 2011 - Recc. Clomid and IUI
Taking a break from TTC to pursue adoption
Met our 2 year old son in Russia July 2012!
Court trip October 2012
Home November 24 2012!
Back to RE Summer 2013. TTC journey continues:
Dx DOR, endometriosis, low sperm count
Clomid + IUI#1, #2 = BFN / IUI #3 = ???
Laparoscopy scheduled December 2013
Hello, and welcome!
I have to echo the recommendation to check out the FAQ's. If you have any specific questions, fire away! There's bound to be someone here who can point you in the right direction!